Bad day at nursery

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obviouslystupefy · 15/09/2023 00:12

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My 3yr old started pre school full time this week and it was going so well. He's been happy to go everyday! Today when I picked him up, the teacher came out to advise he'd had a really bad day, lots of no and shouting, putting his fingers in his ears and then he hit his teacher! They said it wasn't hard and just out of frustration. I've spoken to him since and asked why and he said he just wanted to come home. I've also said it's not okay to hit etc but I'm just sitting here feeling awful for him that he had such an awful day. He does have his moments at home but generally he's well behaved. The teacher said he'd had a bad day all day😢. Not sure what I want from this chat just wanted to share as didn't want to share with wider family as didn't want everyone asking him about it and trying to parent him too 😩 hoping for a better day tomorrow

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Danikm151 · 15/09/2023 00:14

This is a new situation for him. All kids will have a bad day at nursery. 3 is prime age for frustrations and not knowing how to express them.

It will get better.

MinnieTruck · 15/09/2023 00:17

Sorry to hear DS hasn’t had a good day, it’s always hard to hear your child has struggled at nursery.

My DD started a day after she turned 2 in May. She was unsettled for nearly 2 months and she only did 15 hours. She does Autism so in hindsight her reaction make a lot of sense. She’d pull her hair, not eat any food and cry all of the time. She soon settled and now runs in hugging the staff that she likes.

Has he gone to nursery before starting full time or is this a complete change of routine and is new for him? He will get there but I know it’s hard not to feel guilty, especially if he’s clearly upset. Maybe when he feels upset and wants to go home he can play in a corner until he feels a bit calmer? Just to avoid hitting any teachers or anything

Notsuredontknow · 15/09/2023 00:20

It will definitely get better Op and everyone will go through something - either tears at drop off for weeks when they first start (which it sounds like you swerved!) or something unexpected down the line. It’s such early days and I bet he will have forgotten about it by next week. I completely understand how it will be all you can think about right now though. Try to remember all the lovely experiences he will be getting out of nursery too - this will just be a blip at the start while he adjusts.

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obviouslystupefy · 15/09/2023 00:25

Thank you for the replies, he went to a childminder for 15hours a week from the age of 2 so the amount of hours has doubled and there's a lot more children. The teacher said he did have time out but he wasn't willing to join in much at all today and he was very stubborn. I do think he is just exhausted it's been a really long week for him. He seemed okay at home he didn't mention it much and usually if he's upset about something he keeps bringing it up. Fingers crossed he has a better day tomorrow

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obviouslystupefy · 15/09/2023 00:28

He's been so excited coming home each day about all the fun stuff he's been up too. I know that he is getting so much out of it too. I've been working nights for the past year to work around childcare and now have managed to move to days within the school hours so it's a change of routine too but I know in a couple of months it will be better for us both. Thank you for replying, I feel a lot better about it

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Abracadabra12345 · 15/09/2023 22:41

It's a massive change from a childminder only to a nursery/ preschool setting. One is home from home and much quieter and relaxed, the other in a room with all the challenges and noise of loads of small children plus a number of adults. No wonder he's struggling to adjust today, we all would!

But he will get used to it and have better days

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