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baby will take her first steps at nursery :(

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sillyme563 · 17/08/2023 13:00

Hi mumsnet

Need a bit of a handhold as my child is about to start walking- nursery just sent a video of her standing for ages - and I'm distraught that she's probably going to do this huge milestone at nursery and not with me :(

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MolkosTeenageAngst · 17/08/2023 13:01

Baby will have lots of firsts at nursery, but she will also have lots with you. The first steps are honestly not that big a deal, why does this first matter more than any other first she will be having at nursery or less than any of the firsts she will be having with you?

UpUpUpU · 17/08/2023 13:04

My sons first steps were at my sisters whilst I was at work. It’s still just as exciting! Maybe tell nursery not to tell you if she walks?

toastfiend · 17/08/2023 13:04

My DS took his first steps at nursery, although they were very discreet about it and I think would have "let me" have that "first" if I hadn't asked. When he walked in front of me for the first time it was just as exciting as if it had been the first time overall. Nursery will see a lot of the firsts, it's the nature of the beast, but I promise they're still exciting and wonderful when they happen in front of you for the first time and you will feel just as proud.

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sillyme563 · 17/08/2023 13:05

Not sure why to be honest. It's just one of those firsts that gets hyped up a lot - I don't even remember her 'first crawl' and her words have all come slowly through babbling. I think I wanted the 'omg!!' moment that the nursery workers will get with her

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WandaWonder · 17/08/2023 13:06

It happens I would rather enjoy the moments I do have than spoil them with worrying about one's I won't

TheChippendenSpook · 17/08/2023 13:07

When I worked in nurseries I didn't tell parents if their child rolled/stood/walked etc for the first time whilst in my care. Not that it happened a lot though.

I'd tell them not to tell you.

JenniferBarkley · 17/08/2023 13:08

What I've learned is that a lot of firsts are overplayed and actually pretty hard to identify. What counts as first steps? A fall with style and stumble from one parent to the other? The first time they properly walk from A to B with no help?

First word, what was it? Couldn't actually tell you for either of mine. I remember eldest saying ta ta pretty consistently when giving and taking things but I'm guessing there was the odd Dada or mama in the babbling before that.

Basically, don't overthink it. Your DD is progressing and isn't that wonderful, soon she'll be walking and then you can buy her shoes and bring her to a playground. All is good.

BoohooWoohoo · 17/08/2023 13:08

There will be a first time that you see her walk and that is an important milestone that you will be able to cherish.

Porageeater · 17/08/2023 13:08

This must happen all the time. It’s the first time they walk towards you that will be the important memory for you.

Porageeater · 17/08/2023 13:10

And also agree with PP that some of these ‘firsts’ can be rather hazy by the time they have grown up.

safetyfreak · 17/08/2023 13:13

TheChippendenSpook · 17/08/2023 13:07

When I worked in nurseries I didn't tell parents if their child rolled/stood/walked etc for the first time whilst in my care. Not that it happened a lot though.

I'd tell them not to tell you.

Yep, this.

I never had nursery staff tell me, "your child did this today for the first time!!"

You are overthinking it.

Tippley · 17/08/2023 13:15

Her first steps with you will also be precious. You can ask the nursery not to tell you if she does take her first steps.

thirdfiddle · 17/08/2023 13:29

Aw, but how lovely of nursery to notice and video the standing. Really makes you feel they're engaged with her development and with you. I think I'd rather know not have secrets, but she may actually do it sooner with you anyway. DD was taking steps at home before she started with CM, but it was a good while till she deigned to show CM. Too many other new things to investigate I guess.

Meanwhile lots of encouragement at home - she sounds really close, hold out hands and encourage her to come to you from no distance and then tiny distances - you never know, maybe this weekend!

Tumbleweed101 · 17/08/2023 18:36

We always wait until the parent tells us with milestones such as walking. I had a little one do the first steps I've seen him do today but I have no idea if he's already done that at home so didn't say anything as I'm usually in that room so the other staff would likely know more.

Tumbleweed101 · 17/08/2023 18:36

Not usually

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 17/08/2023 18:38

You will get that wow when you see it for the first time!

Honestly though tell the nursery not to send you those sort of videos or tell you when she has done it, most don't so parents don't feel like they miss out

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