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Pregnant with SPD want to put DD2 into a nursery but a bit complicated, need advice

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sweetkitty · 19/02/2008 20:48

DD1 is in a council run nursery and loves in there, DD2 who is just turned 2 will go there too but not until the term after she turns 3 which is next Easter.

I'm pregnant with number 3 and have SPD which is making life difficult for me. I feel that especially in the next few months DD2 would really benefit from spending a few hours a day maybe 2-3 times a week in nursery. She loves DD1's nursery and has to be bodily carried out every morning, she's quite advanced for her age probably as she thinks she is the same age as DD1.

I asked about the todder room at DD1's nursery which is for 1-2 yo's but was told that you cannot pay to put your child in only be referred by a social worker or health visitor.

I really don't want to contact my HV whom I haven't seen since DD2 was about 8 weeks as I feel it would open a whole can of worms, it's not that I can't cope with the DDs only that I want DD2 to have a few hours interaction at a nursery.

There is a few private nurseries in town but they are across town and also across a railway crossing if the barriers come down (as they do a lot of mornings) you coudl be waiting 20 minutes which I would like to avoid. DD1's nursery is 5 minutes away so ideally would like both of them in the same one as I feel it would mean more running around for me which I am trying to lessen.

I have no family to help out so can't even ask someone to look after DD2 for a few hours to give me a break.

It's just really getting me down today as my pelvis is really sore and I know it's going to get worse I know it's only until July until the baby is born and the DDs won't suffer too much but it seems a long way off just now.

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LadyMuck · 19/02/2008 20:52

Well i think that your options are
a) talk to the HV. I think that you are imagining that a referral is a bigger deal than it is. Just explain that you have SPD, are expecting another child, and I'm fairly sure that you'd get a referral without a fuss.
b) Consider a childminder. Don't know what is available localy but could be an option.
c) suffer.

Personally I'd look at them in that option.

soph28 · 19/02/2008 20:58

Are there any local playgroups she could go to?

sweetkitty · 19/02/2008 21:02

Thanks for the replies, I don't know I'm just worried about asking the HV for help I suppose I am a "I can cope" type of person.

Soph - we go to toddlers twice a week and music group once, thinking of stopping music group as she gets disinterested v quickly and toddlers isn't really that structured IYSWIM.

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Mummywannabe · 19/02/2008 21:03

Hi sweetkitty, can understand why your worried about involving a health visitor, but at our nursey we have had this happen and does not always mean opening a can of worms.

Do you have a childcare course near you as when i trained (many many moons ago!) we were sent on placement in a home setting, this might help you over the coming months?

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