First child nursery fears

[AnxNproud]

I am a first time parent and my son has now started nursery. I absolutely like the nursery I have chose and the staff seems to be very supportive since joining however I’m starting to feel incredible nervous as I have been asked for a meeting.

my son came out very happy and the key person was happy to see me collect him also the head seemed to be calm and collected. Has offered a cup of tea when I see them next which is lovely to hear the kindness as I haven’t had much in my life which perhaps they have sensed a lot of anxiety (I would raise often at home his behaviour can be difficult and worried about his speech.) they told me to not worried about it and I said ok and thanks.

I was spiralling a lot as again it’s the fear of has my son done something wrong and feeling I will get into trouble which my son has done well but I am finding it hard to shake the nerves. I have been asked if I have anyone around to help and I said yes I do. I think this could be more about me just by making this post and looking back reading as I make sure there isn’t any sentences that don’t make sense.

my son has gotten muddy today when I collected him 😂 however as mentioned I hope he didn’t have altercations or have tantrums when he’s been.

what do you think and how could I try to relax as being a disabled (epileptic) single parent?

much appreciated!

I think it's very unlikely that this is about your son being in any kind of trouble – even if there had been an incident like hitting, biting, or whatever, you'd have been informed when you picked up your son. And those things do happen, as part of very small children learning to communicate and manage their emotions. No decent nursery would make that normal baby/toddler behaviour into the child 'being in trouble', let alone their parent being in trouble (although for repeat incidents, they might well want a meeting to discuss strategies, make sure home and nursery are on the same page – but you'd already know what was happening).

Another possibility is that it's a development review. We have the option of a meeting with our children's keyworkers roughly once every six months to discuss how they are doing, so it could be nothing more than that, just a standard thing. Or you mention that you have concerns about your son's speech – it's possible that now that he's been there a little while, they've had a chance to observe him now he's settled and they have some thoughts about his development they want to discuss. Nurseries see so many children that the experienced staff often have a very good sense of the range of typical development, and a good nursery can be a great help in putting support in place and accessing additional support if a child needs it.

In terms of relaxing about it, how long until the meeting? Would it help to ask the head what they wanted to discuss?