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DD wants to go to “another nursery” 😬

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PainAuChocowhat · 04/05/2023 09:43

DD (2 yrs 10 months) has been at nursery since she was 11 months old and has been so happy there. Never any issues with drop off/pick up, she walks in happily and tells me all about her day when we walk home.

Recently though, she has become very resistant to going, full-on sobbing at drop off, telling me she doesn’t want to go and, over the past couple of days, that she wants to go to “another nursery” and to “work outside and go to the shops”. My suspicion is that she’s not feeling 100% at the moment (getting over a cold), Easter & bank hol might have unsettled her, a bit of separation anxiety and maybe a developmental phase.

But there’s also obviously a tiny concern that I’m missing something more sinister. I don’t think I am because she seems like she’d be happy going if I came in to play too, she communicates well and hasn’t ever mentioned anything negative about the teachers. The room staff have been the same or familiar to her since she started (ie rotated in from a different room). DD was at a birthday party at the weekend and had a fabulous time with all her nursery friends so i don’t think there’s a peer issue, and I know a number of the other parents, there hasn’t been any anecdotal whispers that other children aren’t happy.

One option that has crossed my mind is a change of scenery, and popping her into a local forest nursery for a couple of days a week. But then that might a) make ‘normal’ nursery times even worse or b) be subject to the same problems if it’s an issue wanting to be with us vs a problem with the nursery itself 🤷🏻‍♀️

Any advice, experience, suggestions are most welcome.

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Skybluepinky · 04/05/2023 10:23

Sounds like forest school or a childminder would be a better option.

Ilikepinacoladass · 11/05/2023 19:11

As she's coming up to 3 maybe she could go to another nursery for the preschool year? Or combination of childminder and preschool/ forest school/school nursery? I think if it's a one off it's probably that she's tired or something but if it's something she says regularly and is getting quite upset I'd be tempted to do something about it.

Treasureboxkey · 11/05/2023 19:16

Some of the three year olds may have started school nursery after Easter. They will have gone to 'another nursery'.

Could the staff explaining where some of her peers are going/ have gone have prompted this?

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