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What should I do?

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Thisisitforme · 02/03/2023 23:50

My son has been coming home saying a boy let's call him "bob" has pushed him or hit him or kicked him..
this at least twice a week he's saying things like this
I always ask my son if he told his teacher and what she did and he always says she tells the bob off and gives my son a cuddle
I asked the teacher about bob and she said he has special guidance for his behaviour and they are aware of how he treats other kids and are working on it
That was a month ago
Today my son came home telling me bob pushed him over again and I asked if he cried he said yes I cried but the teacher gave him a cuddle and told bob off so I left it
When I was getting my son ready for a bath tonight I noticed scratches up his arm and asked where they came from he said bob hurt him

Now I know they're toddlers and they will push and shove and not get along sometimes that's why I've not said anything until now
But I'm not happy that now my son is coming home with marks on his skin from this child

He's my first baby so I'm definitely over protective and probably thinking too much into it
But I'm just wondering what you would do? If anything? I just want my kid to go to nursery and play and have fun without being pushed around, in tears and hurt every day
Should I speak with the teachers again? Should I ignore it since my son said the teachers already told him off?

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Idontevenknow · 03/03/2023 17:56

I would speak to the manager or leader of the room / nursery with your concerns as its not the first time and it keeps happening

Honeysuckle16 · 03/03/2023 18:07

Definitely speak to the nursery. They will be working to change the behaviour of Bob but they have a responsibility also to keep your son safe. It would be helpful if they could work to separate the two boys as much as possible.

It’s very common for there to be slight physical interaction between children at nursery. However, the staff should ensure that one child isn’t being targeted and frequently hurt. It would be reasonable for you to highlight your son’s injuries and ask that they do whatever is possible to manage things a bit more.

SnackSizeRaisin · 04/03/2023 22:06

Speak to them , explain the extent if the scratches and violent behaviour that your son is receiving and that he is upset about it on a daily basis, and ask what they are doing to keep your son safe. Repeated physical injury is really not acceptable. They need to be watching the other child much more closely. Or ask him to leave.

Thisisitforme · 04/03/2023 23:23

Thanks everyone
I'll definitely go speak with them and see if there is anything they can do
Xx

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