Are nursery judging me

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I don't no if I'm over reacting and just paranoid but I feel like I have to answer to things an being a bit judged. I am a first time mum so I'm learning everyday but I also don't want to he dramatic over the littlest thing. My 1 year old started nursery 3 weeks ago, as he had been teething he got really bad nappy rash so explained that to them put cream in the bag etc was fine. 2 weeks in get a phone call that he really isn't well and had a really bad dirty nappy so to pick him up. I had already been the doctors 2 days before who put it down to a virus so obviously you can't give them anything but calpol for that. Bring him back in a couple of days later an then get another phone call he has bad nappy rash can you come pick him up so did an then their like you need to go the pharmacy or doctor which is fair enough I'd just been using sudacrem an put it down to teething and the fact he hasn't been well so tummy might be a little off like it does with anyone. Then taking him back in after 2 days off give them the creams from doctor an pharmacy because a little bit of the label is torn on the prescription they can not give him it and also telling me I should go the doctors as its not normal for his dirty nappies to be this way. I'm doing the best I can I have taken a week off work looking after him which I have no problem with my son comes first. I just feel its very judgy and if I don't give them the answer they want. I'm new to this so I don't want to over react over everything because he would always be in the doctors if that was rhe case. So now I panic over little things like he likes to itch his face or body in his sleep an then he scratches like will I be judged for that cause it all gets my down also when he hurts himself or cuts himself but then I feel I have to explain the ins an outs of everything. Like I'm not perfect but I do think I'm ontop of things an no when something needs more looking into an what I can heal by myself.abit of advice would be great xx

If your child has an illness they will be sent home. Yes a GP cannot give medicines to make a virus better but you need to keep the baby home until they are fully well and eating normally with normal nappies for at least 48 hours. Viruses spread so a setting has to stop this....viruses can be very dangerous...like Covid.
Sudocream is okay for mild nappy rash but there are better creams for more severe rashes ..I use metanium yellow the legal requirements any setting must follow is to have any medication clearly labelled including dosage and child's name with the pharmacy label...they are not judging you they legally have to make sure it's that way.
If your child has any injuries like bruises or cuts you need to tell them and they have to record it ...this is a legal requirement and is done to protect them from allegations as well as to protect your child ....every child is recorded not just yours they are not accusing you or collecting evidence against you. Normal bruises and cuts are not an issue settings know if an injury is not normal don't worry.

Do not send your child back in until 48 hours after the last loose stool

First of all your doing so well it’s really difficult coping with a child it being your first or not.. also a sick baby it’s tough and I agree the nursery has a duty of care to you and to others, I sometimes too would take it sensitively if a tone or vibe was judgey however the best thing to do is put that to one side make sure baby is all ok and if the judgey behaviour continues address it. Tell them as feedback they are making you feel a type of way. At the end of the day I’m sure your paying a lot of money towards the care to your child and yourself. So if you want them to adjust their tone then so be it.

Yes all nursery's won't take medication in if prescription etc isn't 100%.

I use metanium for nappy rash also! So try pick some up.
I also found keeping the nappy off for abit helped aswell, messy but worth it!

It's really hard at the beginning, but as others they aren't judging you, they have guidelines to follow.

Your doing well, self worry.
if it isn’t clearing up, consider an allergy to something.

What do you mean by he likes to itch his body in his sleep ?

I’m wondering if he has something like eczema?

If he is itchy with loose nappies it could be an allergy.

Not the point of the thread sorry and a total armchair diagnosis, so apologies...

Re your op, I don't think they're judging you but I know how it feels to think that with a new baby. I was definitely quite sensitive when mine were babies! Felt judged for everything I did

Just been through the worst nappy rash with my DD - she is teething but it was so bad it bled slightly. Doctors prescribed something called Timodene and it had to be used 3 times a day with a bit of metanium over it to let it work. It two a few weeks but cleared up. Creche were fine applying it as I asked with usual metanium. DD is only sent home if temperature above 39 and she has had some absolutely woeful nappies this week with the teeth. Just depends on the nursery/creche.