Feel so guilty taking toddler out of nursery help!

[Starryeyed2021]

Hi all
my 17 month baby has been at nursery for almostm6 months now and it’s just been back to back illnesses which has driven me mad! I put her in so I could work a bit but tbh I haven’t been able to actually work much as I end up cancelling my shifts( I locum) or having to leave in middle as she’s I’ll. it makes booking work in hard too as I can’t forward plan anymore sometimes by the time she recovers from one she gets another illness! It’s now got to the point where I’ve had to cancel so many pre booked shifts in I’m getting penalised and not making enough to cover nursery so I feel I need to take her out or at least reduce from 3 full days to 1-2 afternoons just for her social
I feel so guilty though becusee it took us both so long to adapt and get used to it alot of tears along the Way! I feel like I’ve “ failed “ but it just isn’t working out the working and having her go there - the whole point was for me to be able to work but I’m not holding down hardly any shifts so what’s the point :(((

It does get better. DS started nursery at 10 months and the illnesses seemed never ending. He's 3 now and him having anything severe enough to need time off is rare. If you can keep her in for some time then she'll still get to build her immune system and you could always try to increase both your work and her nursery time again in the future.

It is really hard but from my experience, and people I know, it's the first year of nursery that's the worst. After that that still get ill but shrug it off easier, just a constant snotty nose and cough that they just get on with.
So it's up to you how you can make it work for the sake of your career, knowing that it will get easier at some point.
Over half of my annual leave for my DS first year at nursery went on sickness, and that was mostly half days holiday then working from home while he slept, after 12 months it was about 1 day every 2 months or so.

Is there another parrnt? Are they taking time off ?

@Starryeyed2021 my 19 month old has been sick on and off since she started the childminder in August. We thought that was bad into December 12; that week she had tonsillitis, two days later impetigo, then hand, foot and mouth disease and by Sunday of that week chickenpox! You couldn't make it up. And at 2 am Christmas morning she woke with a swollen left eye.
She has recovered but my gos I'm exhausted. I worked two night shifts with less than 6 hours sleep in 48 hours.
Now I'm so paranoid of her catching something when she goes back. Do you have a partner to help? We don't have family so juggle between us. Sending you a handhold and wishing you a happy new year that is free of illness.

Hey all, yeh I’m actually really dreading sending her back in because it’s caused so much chaos like I’m actually in trouble with the work I’ve booked in because I’ve ended up leaving them in the lurch so much last minute ( my job sort of is like they can’t function or open without me) and very hard to find last min replacements

sonwe had this discussion with my husband but in all fairness he is also self employed but when he is off we lose a lot more money then when I’m off so that might sound silly but at the end of day we’re a family and it makes more financially sense for me to be off as he earns a lot more then me

i think I’m gonna throw the towel in and just let her do one or two afternoons and resume my work when she’s a bit older
I mean what is the “‘Right” age for sending a child to nursery

Try to send her full time from Spring/Summer as if she is still mixing now by doing a couple of afternoons she will have caught most of the bugs anyway.

Unfortunately this year is the worse due to the lockdowns stopping people mixing meaning everyone is sicker than normal and so kids in their first year of childcare are sicker.

@Starryeyed2021 my 19 month old just woke with a cold and potential sore throat and is refusing to eat!