nursery issue..... ds was bitten twice early this month..

[morninggirl]

...and i was never told about it until yesterday when i was asked to sign the 'accident log book'.

they weren't bad bites and when i asked why i wasn't told, they said it was because i was in a hurry to leave. (i usually am as i am dependent on buses, but its a bullocks(sp?) response.)

and when i asked more what had happened, they said my son put his finger in the other boys mouth. twice. i said, "i thought it was his hand, not his finger".

sigh
i'm quite displeased

is it worth taking it up with the practice manager? or letting it go?

I'd simply say that you'd like to be told of any incidents on the same day (when you pick him up) and leave it at that.

that's probably what i will do. the nursery's been decent to me (as i'm in the middle of a separation) - i just wrote in the accident book "was not told of incident until jan 30 2008".

If your unhappy then definatly speak to the manager. My son was bitten badly on the shoulder a while back and even though i rush in and out the girls made sure i was aware and showed me the mark (rather horrific i have to say)
You also need to know if it's the same child bitting as if it's happening to your son it's probably happening to others and something should be done about the child thats bitting

"something should be done about the child thats bitting"

Depending on the age, there's not a whole lot you can do TBH. Just watch and try to get three first to stop it.

the bites weren't so bad that i noticed them at home, i thought he'd just hit or banged his hand. he didnt mention being bit or anything (as he usually does when somethings happened.)

my son used be one that bit. (last june, shortly after he started nursery.) he outgrew up, just as i suspect this child will. the nursery won't talk about if a child has bitten more than one child. privacy thing i suppose.

sigh, im just upset i wasn't told
and then i was kinda fobbed off with the excuse that i was in a hurry, making me seem like some kind of rushed-off-her-feet-too-busy-to-give-a-toss-about-her -kid-being-hurt-at-nursery mom.

and i'd miss all the buses i had to....

I think nurseries try not to make a big deal of biting because as you say, children grow out of it, and they don't want parents getting distressed, or feeling hostility to the biter. Sure they didn't mean that you are so busy you don't care for your son.

well, not telling a parent and not making a big deal are 2 different things.
i'd never make a big deal of it, especially being on the other side of it (having the one who has bitten.)
i'm just going to mention to the manager today that in the future, i'd like to be told when things happen. end of story.
if it happens again when i'm not told, i will make a bigger deal of it, as it's not on to not tell parents when things happen.

Think your right morninggirl. The fact that it was noticed it wasn't signed indicates its checked like we do by someone in management, in most likehoood girls most likely told off already for this (i should hope). Do speak to the manager though and ask what she has done about it. In our setting the book is checked at the end of each day and any forgotten accidents i.e not signed (shouldn't happen but does)parents are called that night to inform.

Would they have forgotten a bang to the head in the same way, very dangerous.

i mentioned it to the manager and she apologised. not much else i can do just hope it doesn't happen again.

however now, i am concerned another, older (and much larger) boy has been intimidating my son (i watched this boy get in my son's face twice friday afternoon when i dropped ds off) (i did mention it to one of the workers who said they would tell the other staff.)

i pick my son up, and i find out he was pushed down in the garden.

once me and ds left the nursery, the first thing he blerted out was "---- pushed me" - the same boy i asked them to keep an eye on.

I'd say this happens with kids, the staff can't stand over them all the time

if you are still worried discuss it again with the staff and maybe they can reassure you a little

it does happen with kids, definitely. i plan to mention it again if there is another incident with this same boy, as i saw him get in my son's face twice, i have to wonder how often it happens that i don't see, or the staff doesn't see.
the staff is there and being paid to watch, look after, care, teach, etc the children.
no parent who has children in nursery would ever want to think that their children are not properly being looked after.

although on some occasions when i've dropped my son off, there is only 2 staff members to a room full of children. i wonder if there is allowed (as it's 1pm when he's dropped off and other staff are on lunch.)