Nursery and potty training

[robin441]

I'm a school teacher and have been off this week. I decided it was a great chance to start my son on the potty training on Sunday and so far he's doing really well. We're slowly venturing out for longer and he's still doing well.

I've updated my nursery about it and he's due to go on Friday. I've had a message back to say they advise i don't send him in. I get that it's going to be a distraction but it will be every week that he's there. If they ensure they keep asking him if he needs to go, then it'll be fine (I'm aware they have others to look after but it's all part of the job)
I've spoken to friends who all said their childrens nurseries have been great. What do I do? I get all of my housework and odd bits done when he's there so I can have a wonderful weekend with my family.

How old?

Are they just suggesting keeping him home Friday so that you/he has a full week at home to start getting used to potty training?

What's their actual policy?

I'm a Registered Childminder and from what I know of the sector, generally childcare providers ask that children be trained and are fairly reliable when it comes to accidents, usually on the basis that it's not possible to continually ask everyone who would be potty training if they need to go or clean up unlimited accidents. If you wait until a child is ready then they can do it in a few days, maybe a week.

However all childcare providers are different, which is why I'd suggest you ask for their written policy.

You'll certainly get some providers who will train a child almost fully - I seem to recall when our eldest went to nursery, they took her when she was having quite a few accidents there (but not at home). Providers will often resist if they don't feel the child in question is ready (from what they've seen at their setting) and it would be disruptive or not work.

If you think your little one will be confident at saying they need to go, taking themselves off to the toilet and doing it on their own, being able to wipe etc and will only need gentle reminders then I think that you should definitely persist.

The issue is nurseries can’t keep asking if they need to go, and it is harder with all the distractions at nursery.

if you can keep him off until Monday I would so he has longer to learn his own cues.

It's their job to look after children and help them grow. Potty training is part of it. If they don't understand that then they're a crap nursery and you should find a new one.

I think that's really odd of the nursery. I used to work in a nursery and our advice was to bring them in with lots if changes of clothes (including socks and shoes if possible) and we'll take them every half an hour.

We work with parents through potty training. You can quickly tell the difference between a child who isn't ready and one that is, regardless of accidents. Lots of changes of clothes is all we ask for as spares are limited.

We didn't have this, but did need to send in multiple changes of clothes for weeks. I don't think either of

...mine ever had an accident at nursery as we only ever got muddy or wet from water play clothes home with us

Is your son ready to be potty trained? Potty training is actually a physical development. They need to be able to understand the sensations and take themselves to the toilet. I have noticed when children are ready to stop using nappies they just get it with hardly any accidents however when parents push too early there are lots of bumps in the road and wet accident. Have a look on ERIC it is a website that will give you tips and advice on how to start and when you should start