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Separation anxiety

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1StressedMum · 13/10/2022 21:52

My son is 2 1/2. After 9 months at nursery it's still awful at every drop off. He cries hysterically and is getting worse. As soon as he knows he is going he tells me he doesn't want to go to nursery. The nursery says he settles fairly quickly after I leave but in all the pictures they send there has not been one where he is smiling he always looks anxious and sad. He is never playing with other kids. At the moment he goes for 2 full days and my husbands work hours have changed so he doesn't get much time with his dad now which I think is the reason he is getting worse. I am thinking I will reduce to 2 half days so he gets more dad time but I'm not sure it's going to make a huge difference as he was still miserable going before the change to my husbands shifts. Everyone says he will get there but 9 months is a long time. Sorry for the rant but if anyone has had a similar experience it would be grateful for any advice.

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jannier · 13/10/2022 22:37

Do you have to send him?
Is he always met and handed to his key worker?

Aria2015 · 13/10/2022 22:49

I could have written this. My lo does 10 hours a week (2 mornings) but despite being there over a year, is always heartbroken when I leave. They too say she settles quickly but they've said they can't say 'mama' or 'mummy' in front of her or she just gets upset again. The nursery has an excellent rep and when I pick her up (before she sees I've arrived) she always seems settled and happy. Plus her key worker is lovely and despite her tears, she mentions her (seemingly with affection) when she's not at nursery. I've toyed with moving her but wonder if it would be different anywhere else? It's so hard because I always feel like crap the days I drop her at nursery. But I have to work so not much choice. My mum says she's just struggling with being one of many at nursery (used to more one-on-one attention on other days). So hard to know though because she's too young to explain. Only old enough to say 'No nursery' 😥

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1StressedMum · 14/10/2022 07:25

Technically no I don't have to send him but I think it's important to be around other kids his age. I also worry if I took him out it's only 7 months until he is 3 then we would be starting all over again

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1StressedMum · 14/10/2022 07:27

I would agree he loves the 1 on 1 and probably doesn't like not being the centre of attention

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