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Wrong child given to me

160 replies

Astressedmumoftwo · 28/09/2022 21:13

Earlier today I went to pick up my son from nursery. A member of staff I'd never seen before appeared with a little girl who walked towards me out of the door. I quickly explained that I wasn't her mum and the worker apologised and took her back in. I had a chat with the manager after who explained that this new staff member had been mistakenly told I was this girls mum by another staff member.

He was very apologetic, said the staff member involved was very upset about it and said they'd make sure it couldn't happen again by implementing more safeguarding procedures. They seemed to take it seriously at least

What would you do?

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Hercisback · 28/09/2022 21:14

Accept it was a mistake and move on with my life.

LaurieFairyCake · 28/09/2022 21:14

Laugh and ask if the one they brought out was a better one 🤷‍♀️

AnneLovesGilbert · 28/09/2022 21:14

Accept people make mistakes, they’ve apologised and no harm done.

TheSausageKingofChicago · 28/09/2022 21:15

Nothing. What more could they do?

vodkaredbullgirl · 28/09/2022 21:15

They apologised.

Gysophilla · 28/09/2022 21:16

Nothing. It’s been dealt with.

CaptainBarbosa · 28/09/2022 21:16

They've apologised, it was a mistake, we are only human.

I'd be tempted next time I went back to crack a joke to the new starter and say something like "you know the one you offered me last time, maybe I will take that one, because this one has been a right pain this week" 😂

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 28/09/2022 21:18

Ask if the one they gave me was better behaved and if not I'll take my own thanks , honestly new staff need to learn and don't need to be made to feel any worse for making a mistake

SpinningFloppa · 28/09/2022 21:18

I wouldn’t have given this a second thought, mistakes happen.

surreygirl1987 · 28/09/2022 21:26

I wouldn't be hugely worried about this. I bet there was a massive stress about it afterwards in nursery! But I can't imagine for a second that my son would be brought out to another parent and that they'd actually decide to take my son home instead of their own child!

I can see why you're feeling a bit weird about this though. We leave them in nursery trusting that they are safe. If you don't feel like your child is safe as a result of this, you could follow up with the nursery manager and check what safeguarding procedures have been put in place since, to ensure this doesn't happen again.

surreygirl1987 · 28/09/2022 21:27

Also I'd make an effort to be nice to the new starter - I bet she's distraught.

deedledeedledum · 28/09/2022 21:28

Burn the place down and kill them. All of them. That'll teach them 🙄

Luxurysleuth007 · 28/09/2022 21:29

I probably couldn’t be bothered to make a MN thread about it? It’s hardly the end of the world. But that’s me

Changechangychange · 28/09/2022 21:29

Nothing? Honestly this will happen a lot as your child gets older. Most parents won’t want to take your child home instead of theirs either.

MichelleScarn · 28/09/2022 21:31

deedledeedledum · 28/09/2022 21:28

Burn the place down and kill them. All of them. That'll teach them 🙄

Then pour that stuff quicklime? on the ground so NOTHING GROWS THERE AGAIN!! mwhhahah haha!!

CatGrins · 28/09/2022 21:31

Are you worried someone will turn up to collect their child and take yours home instead of speaking up and admitting it isn't their child? Most all parents will correct that mistake.

Dunnoburt · 28/09/2022 21:33

I'd explain they weren't my child and that's it.....all have to start somewhere.....she probably feels like shit

thistimelastweek · 28/09/2022 21:34

Nothing bad happened.
Relegate this to anecdote status.

Pixiedust1234 · 28/09/2022 21:37

I wouldn't be too worried providing they recognised YOU. Its one thing to give a strange child to a recognised parent, quite another to give a child to a strange adult.

MyLovelyPen · 28/09/2022 21:39

I would complain to OFSTED and have the nursery shut down. Appalling.

Emelene · 28/09/2022 21:41

I can’t see how this would have escalated - I mean, a parent would have to choose to take home a child that wasn’t theirs?
In my nursery they have “passwords” for unfamiliar adults collecting kids. It works well but they don’t need that for regular parents.

GroggyLegs · 28/09/2022 21:41

CatGrins · 28/09/2022 21:31

Are you worried someone will turn up to collect their child and take yours home instead of speaking up and admitting it isn't their child? Most all parents will correct that mistake.

😂

HollyJollyXmas57 · 28/09/2022 21:44

Nothing.
Move on with my life.

OhBackToTheIsland · 28/09/2022 21:45

This happened to me and I laughed, said "they're very cute but they aren't mine!", the nursery worker looked mortified, brought out the right child and I thought no more of it. Mistakes happen and like someone would actually take home the wrong baby!

TroublesComing32 · 28/09/2022 21:46

No advice really but just to empathise, this is the sort of thing that would play on my mind to be honest. Once when one of my kids was very little, nursery didn’t allocate him a special carer immediately when he moved up to the next stage, the rationale being they would wait to see who he took to. So when I went to drop him off, nobody automatically took him from me. When the staff realised, somebody came, but then I worried if they took them outside or whatever, nobody would be looking out for him. I went back and spoke to the manager and they sorted it but I was never really happy until he went into the next stage. I suppose you have two choices either stick with them or send dc elsewhere, it depends how reassured you feel having spoken to them x