Find new provider or wait?

[serafinarose]

I'll try and be brief:

Nursery call Friday morning DS temp is 38.3 so I pick up, temp resolves in a few hours.

Fine all weekend.

Monday morning nursery call again, he's got a temp. Pick up and again, resolves in a few hours.

This morning take to GP to make sure he's ok even though lively and well. No sign of infection, no reason to not be in nursery. Possibly teething related they say.

Nursery refuse to take him, ask me to keep him home for a few days due to past temperatures and pick ups. It's been 24 hours since last temp.

Currently sitting at home with a perfectly well baby while losing pay yet paying full whack for nursery.

Have told them I'm bringing him tomorrow but fully expect a phonecall a couple of hours in. They often call because he's 'not himself' when I think he's just hungry or tired.

Will this improve or shall I look elsewhere?

Additional details: DS is 10 months, started nursery 2 months ago, attends full time.

You say it resolves in a few hours, so he does have a temp then?

I don't really know what your argument is then. No setting is going to have a child in with a temp of over 38, regardless of what a doctor says (it's not their job to tell nurseries what they should and should not accept).

No the temp only appears at nursery then goes away once he's home. My point is that they are asking me to keep a well child at home due to past temperatures. I also don't understand why he's fine at home but not there. Considering leaving work and becoming sahm tbh because this just isn't sustainable.

They believe he has an infection however this is not the case. I think they might be struggling to cope due to the amount of phone calls I get. He rarely does a full week.

I'd talk to the nursery and ask them what you've asked here....why is he ok at home and not there? Are they overdressing him? Is it just too hot? Is their thermometer accurate? Is it happening after naptime and if so is he overwrapped? What do THEY think the problem is?

Ask for a meeting with the manager to discuss. I am sure that sometimes they are over ratio and look for any reason to send someone home, if you make it clear you're not an easy touch you might find they move on to someone else.

I did suggest the overheating thing but it was dismissed. And yes the last one did happen after a nap. I don't know, maybe he's just not suited to nursery where they haven't really got time to focus on and understand an individual child. Any other provider would probably be the same. I'll see how it goes tomorrow. It's just exhausting.

Have you considered a Childminder ?
3 dc over many, many years and I've NEVER been called to come and pick up a child from any childminder I have used. It seems there is the scope for a little bit more common sense.

Push them on what they mean when they say ‘not himself’. They need proper detail on that so interesting what they’ll say when pressed. There’s no pick-up policy for ‘not themselves’ in my handbook.

mine did this recently, he was eating and drinking, playing, fine. So what exactly did they mean by ‘not Himself?’ They couldn’t answer really so I didn’t go and get him.

But I’m pissed off with my nursery at the moment after they called me to pick up 3x for a runny teething poo.

Do you know what is prompting them to take his temperature?

I would be very tempted to turn up with a thermometer to double check the next time you get a call to collect!

You've had him checked over by a GP so there is no under lying infection etc.

Possible teething, nursery are trained to manage this.

As pp, I would be asking the questions of how is he not himself, wet nappies, drinking, eating etc and if you can see he's well in himself then be pretty blunt and say so what is problem here?
Ask to speak to the manager and request a copy of their policies if you don't have them to hand. Sometimes asking for crap like this will put their back up and they'll stop.

Take him tomorrow and say he's been checked there's no issues, you'll see him at pick up.

This sounds like good advice

I'd consider a childminder instead. My friend's child was in nursery a couple of years back and got called at least once a week to go and collect him about an hour after she'd dropped him off.
It was infuriating for her as there was nothing wrong with him when she got there and she was missing days and days of work. After about four weeks of this happening, she got chatting to another mum and the same thing had happened to her at this nursery. Turned out they were frequently "over booking" spaces in the knowledge that either one or two would phone in the morning poorly/not turn up, and that if too many turned up they could just call one of the parents to pick their child up with "mystery symptoms".
Not saying this is the case, but if they were doing it (and to my knowledge are still getting away with it) it wouldn't be mad to think similar could be happening here

Thanks all. I've actually had a look at childminders and there aren't any locally to me or my workplace so that might be difficult. I'm going to take him in this morning and see how it plays out.

I think they take his temp because he always feels warm even when he's not running a temperature.

May try and visit some other nurseries but for now not much choice but to try and work out whatever issue this is with them.