Problems with one child

[Emmajp89]

So I need advice regarding my daughter.

shes 3 and at nursery 3 days a week. Since going back in September I’ve noticed that one child seems to really intimidate her. This child has several issues at school and I think is being assessed for sen needs. On the first week back my dd had a umbrella as it was raining, when we got inside the gates this child took it off her (which she was ok with) as we stood waiting I noticed her staring at the child longing for her umbreLla back. When he came to give it back (after a major meltdown) he ran towards her and she put her hands over her head as if to protect herself like she thought he was going to hit her with it. I thought about it all day and then decided I would (stupidly) call it a one off. Then the next time she seen him she panicked and asked me to pick her up saying “quick mummy he’s coming” that day I picked her up and noticed her face was red on one cheek. She also had a cold and usually gets a sore face from wiping her nose in her sleeve. When we got home I noticed 5 scratches down her cheek, she had a cut, swollen lip and a mark on the underside of her arm. I contacted school to witch they said nothing happened and she must of done it to herself. I was not impressed. So today we go to nursery, wait outside and the same child randomly walks up to my dd and pushes her over. They hadn’t even been playing or interacting, my daughter didn’t even get upset (most unlike her) she just said “ mummy carry me quick” this has made me so upset that this could be going on in nursery ! The nursery have said they want to work with my daughter about vocalising if someone’s upset her. Which I appreciate but at the same time, I’m so worried that this has been going on and nobody cares. Any advice welcome. I understand kids are impulsive and every kid including mine could behave like this. How do I go about it?

Nursery should be taking your concerns seriously, when Dd1 was slightly older she had the same issues with one child, we gave her some ideas how to deal with him, next thing we are told she punched him in playground, he left her alone. I am not condoning violence.

Regardless of any additional needs this child may have the nursery have a duty of care to keep your child safe. I would be a holding a meeting with the manager and if they didnt take it seriously, and put measures in place to protect my child then i would remove my child.

Oh my goodness my heart literally ached reading that. I have a daughter and would be so upset if I had witnessed this. Can’t you speak to the child’s parents ?? And definitely try to get your daughter to be more vocal if she has been upset or hurt. The nursery should have more oversight and be aware of this problem and be monitoring it. Bless her heart xx

Thankyou so much for your comments I had a right moment of an I being difficult but my mummy bear instinct knows it’s bang out of order. I’m arranging a meeting with the nursery. I will definitely be taking her out of there if nothing is done or my concerns are not listened to. This lad is one of 8 and his mum is pretty hippy and laid back. The boy practically has dreadlocks and he’s 3 ! Don’t get me wrong, nothing wrong with being a hippy but I think it will fall on deaf ears with his mum. She’s lovely but let’s her kids run wild. I feel sick with worry and do not feel comfortable sending her there until it’s resolved. Thankyou once again.

I’ve sat all morning over analysing everything and started to wonder if I’m being a helicopter mum. Which is ridiculous, I said to the nursery if I brought my daughter in to nursery with marks all over her and said I don’t know how she got them they would ring social services on me.

they are still saying she scratched herself. Complete madness xxx

Not being over the top at all OP! Best of luck and stand your ground that this is unacceptable!