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Can my 3yo change nurseries again?

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Wala · 11/08/2022 23:17

Hello, we’ve recently relocated. DS started new nursery just before 3rd birthday & has been there for 4 months. Had previously been with a childminder since 16mo, plus 1 day at a pre-school for 3months before we moved. So this is his 3rd setting he’s been in. He doesn’t seem to have settled at all - still very upset at drop off, doesn’t talk at all & pretty much refuses to eat there. He used to be the happiest little boy, so easy going. As soon as we leave nursery he starts talking again but doesn’t say a word in front of them. Is this normal? I’m just not sure it is the right fit for him? Or is it that he’s obviously had a lot of changes recently: new home, town, people, leaving childminder who had attachment with.
We were living somewhere temporarily whilst we settled in this area and are moving into our own home soon where there will be other nurseries closer. Is it ok to move him again? That would be his 4th setting before he’s 3 and a half. He will be starting school in 1 year; is it worth seeing if he’s happier at a new place or not worth the disruption of leaving & settling in again? I would appreciate your thoughts, thanks so much!

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Carrieonmywaywardsun · 11/08/2022 23:33

Don't move him again if you can avoid it. He needs stability and to form secure attachments which isn't happening with all this change. Ask the nursery for help in settling and supporting him

millymae · 11/08/2022 23:37

Does the school he will be going to have a nursery? If so it might be worth considering a move there if they have availability as when the time for school comes it won't be yet another huge move for him.

vera16 · 11/08/2022 23:39

What is your gut feeling about current nursery? If you are on board then leave him and he might settle. If not then you don't have to much to lose by moving him. A year is a long time at that age.

Wala · 13/08/2022 20:05

Thank you for your replies. School nursery full unfortunately. Gut feeling isn’t great. Will think about it over next couple of weeks. Thanks :)

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RedWingBoots · 13/08/2022 20:07

While you shouldn't move him, if you have serious doubts about the nursery then you must move him.

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