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Has anyone ever worked in the same nursery as their child

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Girlmommy · 26/07/2022 15:49

So I’m starting a job in a nursery soon which I can take my child to the same nursery I work at . Just wanted to get peoples experiences with this as she’s 10 months and can be quite clingy to me and it’s a small nursery so I think there will be times where she’s in the same room as me so naturally she would come to me and I can’t exactly turn her away but obviously I still need to look after the other children. Anyone got any experienced with this ? I don’t have much other option as I’m not driving yet so be hard to take her to a different nursery

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ABugsLyfe · 26/07/2022 15:56

Not experienced this but I can see what you mean. Hoping someone will come along with some advice

jennyofthenorth · 28/07/2022 01:14

Parents in the room with their own child tends to end badly imo! Ive seen lots of kids get extra clingy to the parent-teacher which then leads to the parent trying to get them to go play. Usually that ends with a frustrated parent, a confused kid and just a unhappy situation. I would ask about the centers rules and procedures with parents working in their childs room. they may have some rule that makes this a non issue.

Hotpinkangel19 · 29/07/2022 01:55

Yes, me! No issues at all.

Musicalmaestro · 29/07/2022 08:50

The people I know work in nurseries where their children are in different rooms. I can see why you are anticipating difficulties with a 10 month old.

faithtrustandpixiedust · 29/07/2022 09:02

Not personally as I left once I had DD but I worked with a couple of people who did, it purely depends on the child I think and how clingy they are once you are round other children.
One girl I worked with it worked really well for them and their child absolutely wasn't bothered at all, went off to play fine etc
Another I worked with ended up having to keep out of the way and be moved rooms each time their child moved up a room so they didn't cross paths as the child didn't cope well knowing mum was around and it was quite stressful for her.
You can only try it but I'd definitely speak to the manager and make sure you've got a plan in place if it doesn't go well, they'll have had this before so should be able to help.

ljdxxx · 29/07/2022 09:09

I work in a nursery and you can take your own child if you want but you aren't allowed In the same room as them.

Mysterian · 29/07/2022 20:18

Most nurseries say not in the same room. I've worked places where they did and it was fine, and some where it was ridiculously bad. ie. A member of staff letting children on a slide then telling her child it was too dangerous for them to go on.

cookielove · 29/07/2022 20:23

Me currently, my 2 year old is in the same room as me and its a total pain in the arse. I mostly treat him like the others but he is extremely fussy, doesn't listen to anything i say and is very defiant.

We are only together because a staff went on long term sick and i stepped in to cover. And we are about to seperate rooms and i am looking forward to it.

When he isn't with me in the room he is just like any other 2 year old. Very settled and a sweetheart 💕

Moonflower12 · 29/07/2022 22:35

Years ago I did with my DS. But he was in the preschool room and I wasn't.
Then again about 5 years ago with DD. The same scenario.

It always worked well and made life easier for me- being at the same location.

TeddyBeans · 29/07/2022 22:53

I started at a preschool back at Easter and had DS move with me as his previous nursery was in a different town. They wouldn't usually allow it and I exhausted all other local nurseries first so had no choice but to be with him. I'm glad it was just for one term. It was interesting watching how he was with other children but I found it very difficult watching him be told he couldn't come to me for comfort or being told off for something I wouldn't tell him off for.

If there's another option, take it imo

MarianneVos · 31/07/2022 14:35

Loads of the staff at my nursery do (both nursery staff and the chef). They get 90% off the fees so it's the only way to make working viable. Never in the same room though.

I think it's really nice although my friend who works there says sometimes it can be a bit stressful finishing up and trying to rush round in her room and not keep her colleagues in her DD's room waiting.

Nodancingshoes · 02/08/2022 07:11

Both mine came to nursery with me. The oldest was fine - no problems. The second I ended up putting him in a separate preschool- it was too hard. As babies it was fine cos I was never in the baby room but got harder as they moved up.

NurseryNurse10 · 02/08/2022 12:44

Most nurseries I have worked in have had this situation. In all scenarios, the parent would be in another room and it would be fine. However, one I do some work in now is awful. One worker is in the baby room with her son and he is so unsettled and screams for her the whole time. It really doesn't work.

PrettyasaPainting · 12/08/2022 12:32

I did, dd was two, I tried to work two days with her there and she spent two days with a childminder so she had time away from me too while I was at work.
To begin with she was a bit clingy if another child needed a cuddle or sat on my knee, but that soon passed and it was no different to having any other child.
We used Mrs.. Miss... in our setting, and she'd ask after the session 'can I call you Mummy again now?'
She stayed until she started Reception, worked well in our case.

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