I picked up ds, 11 mo from nursery today. He goes 3 days per week and usually seems happy enough. There has been some change in that a few new babies have started after xmas and he is nearly the oldest in the baby room.
The nursery nurse said that he had been deliberately pushing, hitting and scratching the babies today, in particular a 4 month old whom he scrathed in the eye because he "doesn't like him, probably because he is jealous as he doesn't get as much attention now" He has been clingy at home for a while, and crying when I leave him - which I think is separation anxiety and maybe it is worse just now as the people have changed at nursery
But I've not known ds to behave like this and am really concerned. He does sometimes playfully grab our noses and laughs, esp when playing peekaboo and does generally like other babies. I thought he was too young to actively dislike other children and I'm upset if he feels pushed out and is actually being bad and hitting the babies. I'm horrified about the poor 4 month old.
She said this happened on Friday as well but didn't want to mention it in case was a one off. But today there was a definite air of "he's getting chucked out if you don't sort it out" towards me.
to be honest I've never been that happy with the nursery,(not that I'm trying to justify ds behaviour!)but frequently the babies are just lying on the floor being supervised from a distance, so it may be no wonder ds is looking for attention and no wonder he managed to scoot across and scratch an immobile 4 month old. the girls seem stressed as well. But i just feel that to say he is "bad" and not liking the other babies is wrong, surely he is too young to be like that? It just doesn't feel right
I'm now thinking a childminder would now be best, more one to one for him.
But I just need to know if I'm overreacting -obviously he is going to hit the terrible twos at some point and I'll have to accept he is going to hit / push then (though will obviously employ the naughty step etc then!)