Is this behaviour normal for 3 year old nursery boy?

[Lily7050]

Yesterday my 3 yo DS tried to show his "good bits" to our neighbours' 3yo girl. He pulled his trousers down and attempted to pull down his pants. When I stopped him he got upset.
I am sure he picked this up in the nursery. At home we do not pull down our underwear to show each other "good bits" neither we ask DS to do it.
Is it something I need to be concerned and speak to the nursery management or it is normal for 3 yo children and I should just ignore it.
The other thing I am concerned, maybe unreasonably, is biting. When my DS gets upset with other child not giving him a toy and he does not have enough strength pull the toy he bites the other child's hand.
I have seen another boy from his nursery group biting at a birthday party.
I have spoken to the nursery management bout biting but they refused to acknowledge that biting is widely spread and said they had only one child who bites, which is obviously not true as I have already seen two children biting other child or adult.

Children are curious about those parts of their body and some want to show and compare. If we are aware of it happening amongst children at nursery we gently remind them that they only need to pull pants down when going to the toilet while they are at nursery. We would keep an eye on anyone who appeared to be instigating it more frequently.

Biting isn't unusual, especially in younger 3yo.

Why are you keen to blame this behaviour on other children. My daughter was a biter - we never bit her, she never went to nursery. Like your DS it was pure frustration.

I never blamed anyone else and neither should you. Your kid is responsible for his actions and you are responsible for stopping the behaviour.

Who uses the phrase “good bits”? I’d be finding that out, as it is not something I would ever say about genitalia to a child (or anyone else!).

Why the fuck are you calling it "good bits"- that is creepy as hell

Body parts - totally normal for kids to be free and curious, they’re innocent and unsocialised! I wouldn’t ignore it, id talk to him about it in the moment. As adults we’ve already gone through the socialisation process to learn what is and isn’t appropriate in various situations. You just need to teach your son bit by bit what’s okay but without shaming him (so he doesn’t end up with a warped/suppressed sexuality or overly anxious about it!) So you could say things like, ‘we don’t do that with friends’ or ‘it’s okay to kiss family on the cheek but not friends’ or whatever you feel is right. My DS is 9 and I sometimes say to him, ‘that’s something you might want to try out with a girlfriend when you’re older, but we don’t do that with X person’. Affirm his feelings that bodies are interesting, and affirm his desires as they develop, but teach him what’s appropriate to act on, don’t tell him off.

Similar with biting - affirm his feelings that he’s angry or sad or whatever, but teach him what’s okay to act on and what’s not okay. Eg ‘I can see you feel angry, but we don’t bite’, and show him ways to express his anger in a healthy way e.g. by you labelling his anger he’ll learn to say ‘I’m angry’ in future - encourage him to talk to you about it, or tell him he can take himself away to stamp his feet or run (anger can be very visceral so helps to have a physical outlet)

interest in each other’s genitals is not unusual in that age. But why did he say “good bits” where has that come from?

As for biting, by age 3 I would expect that to have stopped. By 3 speech is usually good enough for the child to be able to express themselves without having to get so frustrated that they bite. You need to get on top of this and be very firm about it.

Wow. Where's he got the 'good bits' from?

The term Good Bits is worrying.

Children do naturally explore the best thing you can do to protect your child is teach them the proper names for his body parts so that if he were ever to have an incident or get hurt he could tell his teachers or carers. There have been cases where grandad touched my cookie went un noticed....he has a penis, scrotum and Anus they are not rude or dirty words.
Also look at the nspca underpants rule

Well, I'd say it isn't unheard of in nursery age children. Some children are naturally very curious. I would certainly mention it to the nursery and ask them to keep a close eye on it - It is not something you want him doing after all. The nursery won't want him doing it either so need to know. There is always a biter every year, certainly is in my nursery. It doesn't seem to make other children bite though and is not something 'they all do' at all.