Move my daughter nurseries.

[LarissaRose]

I've been contemplating about moving her nurseries for a while now but I think to myself
"is it just me?" So id appreciate your views and experiences.

Daughter went into nursery when I went back to work (she was 9 months old) at the time - 3 nurseries workers were in her room. She built a good relationship with one worker and she became her key worker. (Shes 1 years old now)

One problem was the staff dressing her 'odd' like today- hot summer day, they put her short vest underneath her long sleeve vest, she was sweating and crying when I picked her up, also was left with a sun hat tied to her head indoors!

Things are never returned to her bag (e.g. a shoe, dummy, dummy clips) and then I'm told a staff member probably went home with it and lost it..

and then to top it off recently, her key worker has moved rooms which happens but instead of replacing the staff with permanent staff they are putting new staff in the baby room everyday and everytime i take her in to nursery (2 days a week), shes crying because a strangers having her off me.

when I used to pull up to drop her off she used to be so excited and now she just cries, when I pick her up to come home she sees me and just cries and it never used to be like this.

my partner thinks I'm being a bit over the top as all nurseries are the same but my gut is telling me something isnt right. We pay for the most expensive one in the area as it looks beautiful and is in a lovely safe cul-de-sac but im starting to think money doesn't make it the best option. I just feel bad about moving her and changing her routine if I'm over reacting

TIA

This is really a normal nursery experience. Things will constantly be lost in every nursery, there will always be staff changes and it is perfectly normal for her to start to be upset at this age during drop off as she is now predicting routines, particularly drop off and pick up - it is a sign of secure attachment.

As for going in a finding her in a sun hat indoors, she is most likely been in and out all afternoon, as a nursery nurse we can’t have children out for too long, we are continually in and out - particularly the younger ones we will bring in for a drink and play to cool downthen go back out, no point continually changing and upsetting them with hats on and off as they’ll become quickly frustrated and upset and begin refusing.

Changing nursery is a huge and drastic change in her routine and life, and there’s no guarantees she will get better care or things will less frequently go missing.

Of course ultimately it is you who makes that choice, please speak to her keyworker about these small changes they can make to make you feel better.

@bees03 think someone who didn't agree with your post deleted it for some reason 😕just to say thank you and I did read it before it got deleted and I will be taking her out. I'm moving jobs too so it will be better if she's closer to my new job. Thank you

Most nurseries are having staffing issues at the moment. It's a low paid job anyway so permanent staff have to be invested in the children. COVID put a lot of pressure on staff not just avoiding getting it but if you had other illness or injury the pressure to go in was enormous as other staff members would be off in isolation. Then the many guidence changes and different ways of working.....so yes staff are not always consistent. Free flow between inside and out is probably the reason for the hat and long sleeves...z better protection than suncream if there is access to water or sand where cream gets rubbed off....maybe provide a thinner top?
If you want more consistency and to build a relationship perhaps consider a childminder who will work to the same standards and is inspected by the same criteria but in a smaller setting.

I would absolutely go for a childminder. This may be normal nursery practice but ffs who wants it to be normal for your precious child who can’t articulate how she’s feeling?