What are they getting at or am I being paranoid

[Alreadytiredfortomorrow]

Hey I'm new here, not sure I'm in the right place but I need some advice, my little girl is 2 and a half years old and has been going to nursery every day for 3 hours per day since January, she always seems happy when she comes out although her key worker said shes still quiet shy, well today when I picked her up a staff member told me that another child threw a play dough shape cutter thing at my daughter and it hit her just on the corner of her eyebrow, she said she cried quiet abit and then clung to her for the rest of the day, then she said to me that she noticed a bruise on the top of her leg towards the side while changing her and asked if I had saw it, I said not specifically as she gets so many from climbing and playing with her older brother that I lose track, anyway when I got her home I had a look at her leg and it was a bruise abit bigger than a 5 pence piece and also it was going brown like an old bruise, i have no idea how shes done it (she has multiple bruises down her shins anyway from playing in the garden on her scooter slide etc) but its actually made me feel like crap, in my opinion I think that's abit over the top?

Would be a really shit thing to do if they make a big thing over a bruise, she has siblings, kids play and hurt themselves all the time and with it being a nursery with multiple children, they should know that and probably see this stuff all the time the proof is there really considering she got hurt that day. You have your hands full with your children, you wont always notice! Am sure it'll be fine, there's been a few times my little one has gone in with scratches on her face due to my nephew scratching her, nursery asked me if we had a cat lol. Nope my 2 year old nephew did it and I heard nothing else.

My nursery ask about all visible bruising and ask to sign to say it was there when she went in. It's so they know that it wasn't caused there. Lots of times I have said that I don't know how she got them because kids do run into stuff all of the time. It's the sign of a nursery who take safeguarding uou and your daughter seriously so would see it as a big positive.

Its their job to ask you.

It’s her job to ask about it.

I think the shape cutter and the bruise are different issues. The bruise thing will just be part of the nursery's safeguarding procedure. All childcare settings have a responsibility to look out for possible signs of abuse or neglect, which will include bruises in slightly unusual places like the top of a leg. They're not accusing you of anything, but they have a duty to keep an eye out for these things and ask about them. Just answer their questions factually and keep a dialogue open where you tell them about any injuries she gets in the future.

I am an early years professional and i have to comment/ask about all slbruises/cuts/scrapes and fill out paper work. These documents are kept for 60 years so that there is evidence should something untoward come up.

I understand children fall/trip there are accidents but I need to keep children in my care safe and help them if there is abuse. A bruise in that area is unusual and not knowing how it happened is also a little worrying however, it will just be written up filed and hopefully never need to be used in anyway.

The question is do I want my childcare worker to care enough to ask about my child being hurt even if they're mot at harm or do I want a childcare worker who looks the other way and a child is hurt or dies because they weren't aware of abuse/see the signs?

Legally this paperwork is kept along with accidents and incidents until the child is 21 becouse a child has the right to sue until then .....not 60 years.

It's just their job.

Mine always ask about bruises I haven’t mentioned to them, they need to do paper work to show we’ve discussed it and whether it was done at home/nursery. It’s normal.

Totally normal in my experience. Any kind of injury/bruise/scrape gets documented by them. I have filled in so many forms that my DS' file must be a metre thick.

I know what mean op but it is the norm.
I quite often find myself feeling guilty and paranoid . Like that feeling you get when you're going through customs or a police car is behind you but you haven't done anything wrong .

He always seems to have his accidents on my watch too . And yeah sometimes I don't know how he got a bruise , I couldn't tell you how I've got 99% of the many bruises I have and I'm not prone to falling over and bashing into things like he is

You poor thing. I totally get the anxiety around it.

Myself and daughter have bruises all the time we have no idea where they came from. Just normal in the course of life, also we are both clumsy.

Hopefully the worker's intentions were good and she just wanted to point it out, still strange though because it's a tiny bruise.