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Tanni370000 · 10/05/2022 18:28

Hey just wanted opinions on what happened to my 3 year old at Nursery. She said she was too tired to help with tidy up time in the afternoon so they told her off and put her on a chair and left her crying. Is discipline like this normal for pre school? The kids are only 2 / 3 years old. TIA!

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LollyLol · 10/05/2022 18:33

No that sounds a bit odd. Who did you get the story from? Kids this age are terrible at reporting back to you what actually happened.

Most nurseries don't do time outs now. Yours should have be able to tell you how they handle behaviour so you can align your approach to theirs.

And tellings off are usually very mild reproaches - my son's nursery favours distraction at this age to diffuse hissy fits. If she was very tired, sometimes that can induce floods of tears and tantrums, and some kids need space while they are tantrumming. If that is what is was?

Maybe they tidied up around her whilst leaving her to rest and see if she could calm herself down and come and join in?

user1474315215 · 10/05/2022 18:35

As a former Early Years practitioner I certainly don't feel this is acceptable. Humiliating and upsetting children is never the way to inspire them to do better next time.

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Tanni370000 · 10/05/2022 20:38

Thank you for your replies. @LollyLol it was the teacher who came out and told me she was put on the chair today and left to cry and that she still needs to apologise for not tidying. Sounds like a dated way to punish little kids. @user1474315215 completely agree thank you

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MissyB1 · 10/05/2022 20:44

Hmmmm all the children should help with the tidying and she should be doing what her nursery teacher tells her. Sounds like she was defiant and refused to do what she was told. Bit selfish of her to expect everyone else to tidy up if she wasn’t. So she had to sit out by herself. Perhaps she should have done as she was asked? Helping her friends to tidy the toys would have been a better choice. Talk to her about making good choices, helping her friends, and doing what the staff ask.

Pumperthepumper · 10/05/2022 20:45

I’d be finding a new nursery, poor kid.

HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 10/05/2022 20:49

I'd be asking the nursery for their side of events. It could very well be that what she says is completely accurate but it could also be that she's missed out some of the detail.

daffodilandtulip · 10/05/2022 21:27

If she was refusing to help to tidy, and didn't sit on the chair, would she have then been playing or making a mess instead while the others tidied? Have they put her there so she doesn't undo the others' work, and it's been misconstrued into a "naughty chair" situation?

HSKAT · 10/05/2022 21:31

My nursery don't have a chair/time out etc.
I wouldn't be happy she was left to cry.

I'd ask to find out their side of the story

RuthW · 10/05/2022 21:36

MissyB1 · 10/05/2022 20:44

Hmmmm all the children should help with the tidying and she should be doing what her nursery teacher tells her. Sounds like she was defiant and refused to do what she was told. Bit selfish of her to expect everyone else to tidy up if she wasn’t. So she had to sit out by herself. Perhaps she should have done as she was asked? Helping her friends to tidy the toys would have been a better choice. Talk to her about making good choices, helping her friends, and doing what the staff ask.

Exactly this

Mysterian · 11/05/2022 14:05

What do you think should have happened OP?

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