Comment from nursery - upset

[Hark133]

Am I overacting?

i picked my 2 year old son up from nursery and was asked by a lady I have never met before in his room to speak with me. This lady introduced herself as my sons key worker.

She then proceeded to ask me if I change my sons nappy on a morning, as when he comes in his nappy is wet and full and do we give him breaks fast prior.
whilst speaking with the lady I didn’t quite take it in a explained that he always gets a fresh nappy on before we put him in the car to set off for nursery but he drinks a lot and passes a lot of urine which is making him leak on a night.

Need your opinions as when I’ve came home I’ve been a bit taken back by this and upset and feel as though my parenting has been questioned?

i wouldn’t overthink it… just make sure you actually do change him? It’s easy to change on wake up and forget to do it before going out… meh, no big deal…

I wouldn't be upset by this at all.

Do you maybe need to increase his nappy size?

Why are you upset?

Yes your parenting is being questioned but it's ok for your child's keyworker to do that.

If he always gets a fresh nappy on before you put him in the car, you can't do any more than that.

Nursery pulled us aside when DS was under two and asked if we were struggling with breakfast, and they had some wiggle room to offer free breakfast club to a few children. Turned out we were doing DS off and some of the children slower to eat were finishing off breakfast so he was asking for toast/fruit etc. I then asked DS in front of the room leader what had he had for breakfast that day he said 'poachy egg, toast, a banana, yoghurt, a cup of milk and some of daddy's breakfast'. Room leader apologised, I just thought it was funny, I asked them not to give him breakfast if he asked as he always has plenty at home..I was glad they noticed because for DS it was FOMO, for another child they might actually have been hungry.
How long is the journey to nursery? Do you change him last thing before you set off?

Try not to feel upset about it - for your child it turned out to be no issue, but for another child they might be in the same nappy since the day before and not had any breakfast, so it's right that the nursery are offering support.

I've had to ask the same question of parents (teacher in a special school with some children in nappies). It's pretty obvious when a child has been sent in the same nappy they wore overnight though. The stale, sour smell is completely different from a nappy that's been wee'd in during the minibus journey.