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Biting at nursery

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Cocomalocoo · 18/04/2022 20:18

My DC has been bit at nursery 4 times since the new year.

We could forgive and forget the first two times, third and fourth we haven't been happy at all. They know this and have constantly assured us it is in hand.

I'm doing drop off tomorrow to speak to key worker etc but if I'm honest, I have no idea what to say/ask.

Is there things I need to know about? Or what can you suggest to ask?

We get on well with them and have good relationships with all the staff but I just feel abit deflated.

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saltedcaramelanything · 18/04/2022 20:21

Unfortunately biting at nursery is just one of those things.

Is it the same child doing the biting? The only thing they can really do is keep a closer eye on the biter and try and stop it before the bite happens.
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OnceuponaRainbow18 · 18/04/2022 20:23

@saltedcaramelanything

Biting at nursery is not just one of those things. Mine have never been bitten and have been using the same nursery for 5 years 4 days a week for 2 kids!!

OP, I would raise your concerns and ask what is being put in place to safeguard your child from the biting child

saltedcaramelanything · 18/04/2022 20:27

It's fairly common for kids to go through a biting phase @OnceuponaRainbow18 - usually around 1-2yo. Yours may have been lucky to have avoided it, but it not uncommon.

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Cocomalocoo · 18/04/2022 20:28

@saltedcaramelanything

Unfortunately biting at nursery is just one of those things.

Is it the same child doing the biting? The only thing they can really do is keep a closer eye on the biter and try and stop it before the bite happens.
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Aware it happens and we didn't expect a clear run really but 4 times is a lot and esp coming from the same child

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Bobbybobbins · 18/04/2022 20:30

You could ask about what they are doing to safeguard your child from getting bitten. I would have been upset too if this had happened to one of my DS. I think they got bitten once each in nursery.

flyingbabyb · 19/04/2022 04:23

I would ask:
What are you doing to prevent this?
What plan has been put in place to assist the biter in learning other ways?
I know you cant tell me WHO the child is, but is this one child or multiple children?
These are things Ive been asked as a teacher. Ok most of my kids are talking and pretty great about ratting on each other. I cant tell you who bit your child but another child may, very common to hear "jessin bit joey today! Joeys mom! he cried and hit jessin"

autienotnayghty · 19/04/2022 06:36

The nursery needs to manage the situation better.

I'd ask, what are you doing to prevent this?

The child who's biting needs more support, they need to figure out if it's aggression, sensory, reactive so they can support accordingly. Obviously they can't discuss other child with you but they can say what they are doing to safeguard this situation.

RockAndRollerskate · 19/04/2022 06:36

Biting is a phase, I’d say once or twice is part of being in nursery, however if this is four times by the same child that is totally unacceptable.

I’d ask how it’s being addressed

Wingingthis · 19/04/2022 06:52

My daughter is an absolute angel as far as 2 year olds go - however she is going through a biting phase 😭 only to her sister currently when they are arguing. It’s very hard to stop her as it is so quick and sudden. I’m trying my best though and she’s pretty easy going in all other areas, so I’m sure it’s just a phase.
Definitely talk to the nursery but just giving you a different perspective from someone trying to prevent it!

Lem0nDrizzle · 19/04/2022 07:46

Thank you all.

Yes @Wingingthis I understand the parents on the other side will be equally as hurt.
I'm not putting blame on the child, I'm aware he does having things going on, I think my frustration is for both children really as could they be doing for him aswell as my son etc.

I just don't want to be fobbed off with 'we have it in hand, we are shadowing etc' as I think it's an easy thing to say but it's gone too far now.

Tumbleweed101 · 20/04/2022 07:22

Bites can happen really quickly, even with an adult close by. You only have to have your attention taken by another child for a moment and it can happen. The nursery staff are likely doing their best, some children have no obvious trigger and can be hard to
predict while others have obvious triggers such as excitement, sensory, anger.

Do raise your concerns with the nursery. If SEN is involved it might help them get extra support if it’s impacting other children too.

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