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Think almost 3 year old picked on today at nursery

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ChannellingPoppins · 16/02/2022 21:46

My little girl is almost 3 and has been so happy in the baby room and now toddler room at nursery. She’s about to start at their pre school next week but has done loads of sessions there due to low staffing numbers because of Covid-related staff absences. She’s always seemed to enjoy herself and is familiar with other children there-both those going across at the same time as her and older children.

When I picked her up today the room leader told me the names of 3 friends she’s been playing with and one of them (can’t remember if it was the staff member or my daughter who said it) said that they were my daughter’s best friend. All sounded lovely.

Cut to bedtime and my little one tells us one of these children pushed her over and another put sand in her eye. Then this weird monologue that sounded like a children’s conversation about not sharing/playing. On reflection, she also said at dinner she wanted to stay in the toddler room forever, which I thought was unusual at the time.

I’m going to speak to the nursery in the morning. My daughter has a vivid imagination but not violent so I feel there must be some truth there somewhere and even my other half who is notoriously chilled about stuff like this was concerned.

I feel terrible for her being in that position and I’m scared I won’t be able to protect her when she goes into such a large group of children with less staff if the staff already thinks she was having fun with these children.

Any advice on how to handle? I don’t mind difficult conversations but I don’t want to be too heavy handed or too soft.

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purpleme12 · 16/02/2022 21:51

I don't this is 'being picked on' at about 2 years old
I would probably keep an eye on it at the minute as it might just be a one off
If it keeps happening I would bring it up

busyeatingbiscuits · 16/02/2022 21:55

Toddlers are still learning - there will be pushing and hitting, sand and toys will be thrown. Sometimes it will even be your child doing it.

If this was my child I would say "oh dear, I'm sorry that happened to you. If someone pushes you you can say 'stop, I don't like that' and you can tell your teacher".
I wouldn't feel the need to do anything else unless my child was very upset about it.

ChannellingPoppins · 16/02/2022 22:02

Thanks both. Guess I need to chill. She is verbal though so it felt real and sad (who knows if it was). We had a chat about grown up help. I’ve just never had to worry with her being there-not a good feeling.

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