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Nursery best friend

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rayraymck · 08/02/2022 21:39

My son is 3, turns 4 in March, has been at his current nursery since September full time 5 days at week!

He's a shy timid little boy, took him a good while to come out his shell still is quite at nursery,

He has one other little boy he talks about all the time tells me every day how much he loves him, after dropping him off the other day I seen his little friend come to the door and gave my son the biggest cuddle, both beaming with happiness to see each other, the teachers tell me there always together and get on great

It's my sons birthday in March all he wants to go soft play with his ' best friend ' from nursery, I drop off early and have never met his parents,

Is it weird to write a note or invite to give the boys mum to ask about a possible play date?

I have aniexty, and worry about every little thing so I don't know if I'm over thinking this and it's a normal fine thing to do, or if people just genuinely don't do this kinda thing or bother outside of nursery? XXXX

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Kharmelionz · 08/02/2022 21:43

Aww that's so sweet. My daughter is the same. She has a circle of 5 little girls that she calls her besties. At Christmas one of the mums put her number in a card and we just had a play date the 5 of us a few weeks ago. It was lovely. Nothing wrong at all with putting your number in a card, I'd put something like "my son talks about your son all the time. If you're interested in having a play date do give me a message"

Kharmelionz · 08/02/2022 21:44

Or you could strike up conversation with her at pick up or drop off if you ever see her?

Kharmelionz · 08/02/2022 21:45

Or sorry. That'll teach me to read your post thoroughly, you've said you drop off early so haven't met his parents.

Wingingitsince2018 · 08/02/2022 21:47

We have had exactly the same thing, DS constantly asking to see his friend and us having no clue how to go about it. Just by luck DH saw the other boys mum at pick up last Friday as they came out the same time. He got chatting and turns out she was thinking same thing! Swapped numbers and now we have a trip to the woods in the diary for next weekend!

So I would say go for it :)

BlueRaincoat1 · 08/02/2022 21:48

For my ds' 4th birthday we invited 5 kids from nursery to a party at our house, i'd never properly met their parents until I handed them the invites and introduced myself (I recognised them a bit form puck up time) - my son just told me the names of the children who were his friends. All the kids (and parents) came.

I think it's lovely your son has a friend and I wouldn't have found it weird at all if my ds had been invited to soft play for a birthday, even if he was the only invitee.

mynameiscalypso · 08/02/2022 21:48

I think if the staff agree that they're friends then it's a lovely thing to do! I only sound that note of caution because quite often the nursery staff tell me that, for example, my DS' closest friend is a child I've never heard of before and that he never plays with the child he talks about all the time. Or I get a random parent come up to me and say what great friends our children are and my DS seems not to have a clue who they are!

angelopal · 08/02/2022 21:51

We have done notes for both ours at that age and received a note. Just put it's xxx mum if you would like a play date here is my number. Or something in along those lines.

TrialofTrials · 08/02/2022 21:56

Our nursery has sent emails on other parent's behalf before with their number and we got in contact previously.

MissLC · 08/02/2022 21:59

If this happened to me at nursery, I'd be really pleased. (My DD has her first full day on Thursday so obviously no friends yet)
Go for it!

sweetheartyparty · 08/02/2022 21:59

I've left a note with nursery staff for another parent. It was well received and they had lovely playdates together. I'd say go for it

mowly77 · 08/02/2022 22:05

Really normal. Go for it! Our nursery will put notes/party invites in children's trays if you ask. They will also helpfully give you a list (first names only) of children they see your child playing with most & then you can put an invite into their tray for the parents. Didn't know any of the parents at my child's nursery at all but she got invited to a birthday party this way & we got to know each other & now have a WhatsApp group and it's really nice. We can now arrange playdates between ourselves.

Clarabellawilliamson · 08/02/2022 22:12

My son went to his first party last week. Just the birthday boy (age 4) and 3 others invited. The staff at nursery passed on a paper invite as I had never met them at pick ups. I stayed with him and we all had a lovely afternoon. I thought it was a nice thing to do!

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rayraymck · 08/02/2022 22:16

Ah wow, replies have really put my at ease!

Sounds like it's good to try make the 1st move,

Thank you!!! Xx

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Everythingsokreally · 08/02/2022 22:21

Just to add to all the others saying this is really normal and will really be appreciated! And you never know, you might make friends too - one of my best local friends is someone I only met bcs we organised a play date because our children were best friends in nursery! I think that was organised through a parents Facebook group, but have also done it via a note before that.

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