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Positive nursery stories please?

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EmmaInParis · 26/01/2022 08:46

My DD is about to turn one and start nursery 3 days a week and I’m feeling as I imagine every mum feels at this point... a little bit heartbroken and wondering if I’m making the right decision.

We had her first settling in session this week and it seems like a great place with lovely staff but it’s very busy and will obviously be so different to what she’s used to after a year of my undivided attention.

She’s a sociable little girl and has always been happy to be left with family but she seems to have hit a bit of a clingy phase with me lately.

She’s also not particularly mobile yet and it makes me sad how small and vulnerable she seemed in a busy baby room where there won’t always be someone available to pick her up and play with her. She didn’t seem fazed by the environment at all but I was still there for this session.

She hasn’t been a great napper either and I’m worried whether she’ll manage to sleep at all in a bright noisy room.

I know these are all the usual worries anyone starting childcare will go through but I’m wondering whether I should have put her in a smaller setting like a childminder instead until she’s a bit older.

Does anyone have any positive experiences of nursery to share that might relieve my guilt? Did their motor / communication skills come on, did they enjoy it? Please reassure me!

Thanks in advance

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spacefrog35 · 26/01/2022 08:54

My little one went into nursery aged 8 months. It was 'busy' and I had all of the same concerns as you. She's now 5 and is still best friends with 3 of the little girls she met there. She slept at nursery quite happily (she NEVER did at home), she hit all her milestones and adored the staff who looked after her.
I think the really important thing to keep in mind is that none of this is set in stone so try it, and if it isn't working for you, or her, you can always change it.

EmmaInParis · 26/01/2022 09:45

That’s lovely to hear, thanks for taking the time to reply. Glad your little girl thrived there x

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Heartofglass12345 · 26/01/2022 16:57

My son started when he was just over 18 months old, he got on really well and enjoyed it, he turned out to be autistic and they always seemed to manage ok with him. He made a friend there that he is still friends with now at 8.5 years old!
My husband did drop offs/ pick ups and he said he used to cry when he picked him up sometimes as he was probably happy to see him.
I was so worried about him thinking we had left him but he thrived there.
My favourite report for him was that he was showing off his dance moves Grin

Heartofglass12345 · 26/01/2022 16:59

Oh and I laughed when they showed me the little beds they slept in in the day, saying he would never sleep in those! He was still in a cot at home. Proved me wrong didn't he haha. You'll find they quieten the place down and stay with them until they fall asleep Smile

GettingItOutThere · 26/01/2022 17:04

honestly, when you have a good nursery they are like magic staff!
the kids; they sleep, they eat, they play and they are different kids!

you will be very surprised, your little one will sleep anywhere as they will be so tired from all the fun they have!

dont worry!

Milliways · 26/01/2022 17:15

My DD started nursery at 7m old and I was so guilt ridden. She settled in very fast and was sad to leave to start school. The teachers said you could spot the nursery children as they were more used to working in groups and getting along etc.
DS went to a childminder until age 2, then to a nursery. Took him quite a while to settle in as harder when they are older, but nursery were great and worked with him, and he too grew to love it.
Both are now adults, one with her own child who also went to a nursery.
Good luck!

Footnote · 26/01/2022 18:04

I loved loved loved our nursery. The staff were very kind. They told us the exact moment to start potty training and how and we were accident free within a couple of hours.
School holidays are longer than nursery holidays and those days we always go by to say hello. The kids are genuinely excited to go and the staff really seem to be happy to see them too. One staff member still babysits for us.
The staff have loads of knowledge and are very professional, and they have a creativity in their way of playing that it’s really hard to have with your own children.

Mano2020 · 26/01/2022 22:42

Your little one sounds exactly like my boy. He started nursery at one and was exactly how you describe your daughter. He also goes three days a week. He had a few days at the beginning where he did not eat as much but after that he was like a totally different child. He now eats things there which he dont dare to touch let alone eat with me. I think it must be the eating with his friends that encourages this. Also he absolutely loves being there. He is now 19 months and waves bye to me as soon as i hand him over at the door and has learnt so so much. I have an app i can see what he has been up to everyday. Also can call anytime to check up on him. Honestly, i am sure she will fit right in and enjoy being there Smile

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