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Should nursery have let me know?

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my8thMNusername · 04/11/2021 21:19

My child goes to a small preschool - one night this week she told me she had a sore head and it was from bumping heads with a boy that day. I wasn't sure whether to believe her as I'd not heard anything from nursery.

I emailed them to ask and it turns out they did collide and that my child was quite upset but quickly got over it, and if it was an injury they would let me know.

She has a small bruise on her head today (incident was on Tuesday) so I'm a bit concerned it was worse than they've said/they think.

I'm not sure how to approach nursery about this (if at all). I'd like to know if my child's been hurt and don't want to doubt what she's telling me! Do you think this should have been reported? Daughter is 3.

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Bushkin · 04/11/2021 21:21

I couldn’t get het up about it. Kids bump into each other all the time, if there was no obvious injury at the time then what more could they have done?

NuffSaidSam · 04/11/2021 21:22

Yes it should have been reported.

And when you raised it with them they should have apologised for the mistake and not tried to claim it wasn't an injury!

Mistakes happen, but I wouldn't be happy with that response, particularly as it was a head injury.

Moonshine11 · 04/11/2021 21:23

Yeah you should have been told and tbh it should be logged in the accident book.

Emsie1987 · 04/11/2021 21:27

Agree. You should of been told any accident should be reported to you. Also from a health and safety perspective for themselves.

Strugglingalone · 04/11/2021 21:30

Any head injury must be reported to parents that day and if a parent is missed then a follow phone call done (that evening). So definitely something you should be cross about and needs following up with nursery

I have worked in at schools and that has always been the policy - head injuries are not to be messed with! In some schools we had stickers to put on the children to spark parental conversations

NewbieAlert · 04/11/2021 21:39

Agree, I’d have expected to sign an accident form for a head injury, even if there was no obvious bump or bruise.

My DS once came home and told me x bit him. I asked where and he pointed to his back. I lifted up his t shirt and there was a big bite mark.
At first I was so cross with nursery for not telling me but turns out they didn’t even know.

I’m not sure what’s worse!

GoingForAWalk · 04/11/2021 21:48

It absolutely should have been reported and you should have received a letter explaining what to look out for ie vomiting etc from a head injury

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my8thMNusername · 04/11/2021 22:13

Thanks everyone. I've had no issues before so wasn't sure what to do. I went through the administrator and first she had to check if anything had happened, then told me yes they'd bumped into each other. When I asked about protocol in terms of informing me she sent me the below. I'm just a bit concerned it was bad enough to give her that small bruise on her head which she says is from the boy she bumped into.

"They would inform you if there was any injury and treatment given, particularly if it is a head injury but they would also speak to you if she was very upset by it. They did not see any heads bumped, neither of them appeared hurt in any way at the time, these kind of incidents do happen as they do get in each others way at times."

I'll follow up with them in the morning - appreciate the advice. I would like to know if she's had a fall or bad bump especially if they appear to know about it!

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kateg27 · 04/11/2021 22:16

From their reply, I don't know what you expect them to do. Kids bump into each other all the time. They didn't see them bump heads and your child wasn't distressed. I'm baffled as to what you expect.

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my8thMNusername · 04/11/2021 22:26

@kateg27

From their reply, I don't know what you expect them to do. Kids bump into each other all the time. They didn't see them bump heads and your child wasn't distressed. I'm baffled as to what you expect.

Just to be told about it really. So if something happens again it gets mentioned when I do pick up

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my8thMNusername · 04/11/2021 22:27

@NewbieAlert

Agree, I’d have expected to sign an accident form for a head injury, even if there was no obvious bump or bruise.

I’m not sure what’s worse!

Oh no! Hope he was okay. I know what you mean as you want the staff to be aware of anything like that

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NuffSaidSam · 04/11/2021 23:14

Tbh if it's serious enough that they remembered it when asked, it was serious enough to report to the parents.

Of course kids bump into each other a hundred times a day, that's why the staff wouldn't be able to recall any of the ones that didn't result in a crying or injured child. The fact that she was crying indicates she hurt herself, they should have asked where she was hurt (presumably she's able to say it was her head) and reported it to the parents.

MilkCereal · 04/11/2021 23:21

So they didnt see any bumped head so no I wouldnt experience t it reported. A 3 year old will have tripped, bumped into others etc throughout the day those dont need reporting if not particularly upset or hurt.
No issue.

Megan2018 · 04/11/2021 23:22

We get head injury forms all the time! In think the record was 4
consecutive days.
It’s a bit lax to not tell you, especially if there’s a bruise. Our nursery misses some things-there’s occasionally mystery bruises and scratches. But they are very hot on heads.

NuffSaidSam · 04/11/2021 23:27

They don't need to see bumped heads to report it! Not in a room where the children can speak and report what happened.

And the DD was upset, it says that in the OP.

Skysblue · 04/11/2021 23:46

At school, all head injuries including minor bumps have to be reported to th parnts so they can watch out for concussion etc.

Yanbu, th nursery should have a better policy that is at least as good as schools have.

Strugglingalone · 05/11/2021 09:59

At an activity camp I worked at we had to record head injuries for parents even if we hadn’t seen them due to the possible serious nature
We would then write x claims to have hit their head while y/ with y. Whilst this wasn’t witnessed by staff we gave z ….
I would be concerned by their lack of concern over head injuries, general bumps and bruises do happen daily but any knock to the head usually results in tears due to the shock of it

RadioPenguin · 08/11/2021 18:50

If they state they didn't see a bump of heads then that's that. They can't report something to you that they know nothing about. Children are constantly colliding, bumping each other with toys, tripping Iver things etc. You can't constantly have your eye on all of the children all of the time. I assume your child is 3 or 4? So a ratio of 1:8. Even if 2 then a ratio of 1:4 means you often can't be watching 4 children at the same time. Just one of those things

SurferBoy02 · 08/11/2021 21:42

I used to work at a preschool and yes it should've been reported. I'd be sending my child to a different setting and reporting them to Ofsted if I were you.

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