DD (now 2 yrs) spent a year in a nursery and after a few days of nerves she loved it. Loved the lady in charge in her room and we always got comments how easy she was for them etc. This year she has changed rooms to the next age group up and she is struggling. The nursery started integrating her to the new room and teacher over the summer when it was quiet and she seemed to do ok. Still happy and went in no problem. But now it’s awful, she goes in but is reluctant and her eyes go watery each time. No smiles. She had started waking at night crying over the summer and we put it down to teeth or a phase or something, it wasn’t too bad but now she is waking and screaming, all sweaty and just very upset at night. We went away for 2 weeks and she stopped the crying at night, We also used the time out of nursery to potty train as she was really keen to ditch the nappies and she is flying along. She did last week as first week no nappies in nursery and had 1 or 2 accidents each day, she does 9-5 pm 3 days a week. this week only 1 accident the first day, none the 2nd day but today was just a disaster, 4 accidents. I noted that this week the day she had no accidents her previous teacher was in her room, she was so excited she was telling me on the way there in the car. Today was back to the new teacher. I find the new teacher negative and not very friendly to my DD. happy to tell me, in front of DD that the accidents are not acceptable and she can’t be doing it. She hasn’t said a positive thing to me actually ever. She doesn’t tell me how the day went unless it was bad. She merrily chats away to my DH if he does the collecting though. Can’t help but feel she doesn’t like me or DD who is a mini version of me. Everyone is different and some personalities just don’t mix well. I seen the new teacher with other children and she is lovely with them, so I don’t know why she doesn’t appear to like us, but i can’t help shake the feeling this situation isn’t good for DD. I defo don’t want her to regress in the potty training. She has dry nappies already after naps, the poos are sorted etc but I am not sure how tomorrow is going to go after what ever went on today. I think she feels pressured as they take her to the loo every 20-30 mins. I only remind her every 60-90 mins, she is quite independent and like many 2 years olds she wants to do things herself and if you say things too often she resists. I tried asking nursery to back off her a bit but they won’t.
Should I take her out if possible for another couple of weeks until she doesn’t need reminding about using the loo?
What do I do about the unfriendly negative teacher situation? DD is still learning, comes home and recites her counting and some songs etc but the new teacher just doesn’t suit her, or am I being too soft about it all?