Bruise on bottom

[Flowerpowerr1]

My 2.5 year old son who’s still in nappies started nursery for the first time 2/3 weeks ago, he is still settling in. I’ve tried potty training him before he started but I could just see he wasn’t ready, I mean he’ll pee in the potty but never poop! So he still wears nappies.
Anyway so his nursery changes nappies and they always inform me when they have via the app.
Yesterday at nursery he soiled his nappy and it was changed. When he came home I notice a red patch on his bum cheek, I thought nothing of it really but today when I changed his nappy I saw that the red patch had turned into a bruise.
Now it’s not in an area that could’ve been bruised if he fell over it’s more close to his genital’s, basically a place you would wipe.
I was shocked as I’ve never bruised my ds when changing his nappy because you don’t need to use that much force??
I asked my ds “what did the lady do when changing your nappy” and he said to me “ouch ouch” he can’t make very long and clear sentences yet but he’ll never make anything up.
I think the lady who changes his nappy is a bit too rough.
I don’t know weather to bring this up to them or just let it slide?
Has anybody else experienced this sort of thing?

If he was mine he'd be changing nurseries or going to a childminder. X

Could he have done it sitting on a trike? Falling while climbing (with something between his legs)? Falling onto something?

I think the idea that someone wiped him so hard they bruised him by accident seems quite unlikely, so you're looking at someone deliberately injuring him. It's a big accusation to make, although if you think that's what's happened then take immediate action.

I would query it. It’s hard without knowing but could he have fallen onto his bottom and landed on a toy or something? Ask them if he fell? The question you asked was leading and him saying ow ow could mean it was sore when he had his nappy changed?

If you are not happy with their answer then I would consider putting in an official complaint and removing jinx

I don't think you bruise a bum from being to rough at changing a nappy. My worry would be deliberate abuse but more likely he fell on something. Maybe sat down on something? I would raise it with nursery to say he has a bruise and you don't know why.

You’ve put words into his mouth with ‘what did the lady do to you’ so you really can’t take that as proof of anything. I’d ask more about what activities he was involved in that day to look for a logical cause first.

Maybe I’m a bit naive but I wouldn’t come to the immediate conclusion that a nursery staff member was responsible - also because to create a bruise you’d need to bump into something, I don’t see how even heavy wiping would do that - it would leave sore skin perhaps or a red mark, not a bruise. DS fairly frequently sits down heavily on toys that are lying around which have left a bruise on his bum. As a op said you won’t get to the bottom of things like this by putting words into his mouth, although I understand that I’m that moment it’s hard not to.