My 2 year old has been at nursery for 3 months now. He only goes for two afternoons at the moment. When he first started he struggled to settle in and play with other children. His key worker explained he had been rough a few times, we kept an eye on this and one month in he had settled down and was all positive. He had a review and all positive feedback that he had settled in well and playing with other children. I was made up.
Fast forward to two weeks ago and it seems anytime I pick him up I am getting negative feedback. A new nursery room leader has joined and brought him out to me at home time explaining that he had flooded the bath room and doesn’t listen and how’s his speech. Questioning what he’s like at home and that they’ll just work on that. I don’t think a 2 year old should be left on his own to have the ability to flood a bathroom. She also didn’t even introduce herself to me as we’d never met.
His dad has picked him up other times and when his Key worker is in and hands over there is nothing said and he’s been a delight. Yesterday I picked him up again and when she brought him out she said he was being handsy with the other children and climbing on everything and not listening. At home and at social events he is great with other kids, is playful and honestly a great wee boy so this is a shock to me. I explained this and again she said they’d just continue to work on this. He had a bump on his head and red marks which she shrugged off that it had just happened and frankly wasn’t even going to mention it, barely explaining what had happened.
I found her tone was judgy and patronising each time speaking with me. It’s quite difficult to speak properly at the steps of the nursery when there are loads of other parents around and she has her bag on her back ready to leave. I don’t know if I’m overreacting in being annoyed at this situation. He is only 2 years old, has spent majority of his life at home with just myself and his dad and is learning. Yes he can be a handful and doesn’t listen all the time but is that not normal? I’m worried I’m taking it too personally but then I worry if I don’t say anything I’m doing right by my son.
Should I approach the nursery about this?