DS is 2 and starting nursery. We couldn't visit during open hours when we signed him up (thanks, covid) but had a look round after hours and met the nursery manager. All seemed great, and parent feedback is generally very positive.
He's had a couple of settling in sessions so far and suffice to say they've not gone great. He managed an hour before the mother of all meltdowns, but since then I've not been able to leave for more than ten minutes. He can't be cheered or distracted and I'm not prepared to leave him in inconsolable for an hour or more (please don't judge me on this, I know the general view is a "rip the plaster off" approach but in my view the level of meltdown he's been having goes beyond that).
Anyway, the reason I'm posting: the staff all seem fine but his keyworker seems pretty useless and he hasn't taken to her at all. She lacks warmth or that natural "way" good carers have, and doesn't seem able to read the children very well - other mums have noticed the same. And yes, there's a big part of me that finds it even harder to contemplate leaving DS when I don't trust that she'll be able to comfort him or be the replacement attachment figure I thought keyworkers were meant to be (but happy to be corrected on this one!) Despite my reservations we've been doing lots of talking about her and nursery, all very positive and excited and cheery, so DS absolutely shouldn't be picking up on my vibes.
I don't know whether to say anything to nursery or not. My gut feeling is that he'd settle more easily with a keyworker he liked. But would that be worth trying and would it even be reasonable to ask?
WWYD? First time mum (can you tell?!) and I'd really appreciate your own thoughts, especially from anyone who has been through something similar.