Nursery settling in - your experience

[Gemmie16]

My DC is 13mo and has had three settling in sessions this week of increasing length, to a half day. DC has been very upset at drop off and pick up, taking a good while to calm down even when back with me and home. Feedback from staff has been that they are 'fine' when there, eating when food offered and playing, managed a nap one day. But not very forthcoming with details (I had to ask if they had eaten/slept/how much etc). I was called today to pick up earlier due to DC being upset and tired.

My head tells me it's going to take time and I need to give it a few weeks. My heart tells me something isn't right with this nursery perhaps - I don't know if I'm just being overly anxious. LO is a lockdown baby so hasn't spent that much time away from me - the odd morning or afternoon with grandparents. Usually very happy and sociable otherwise.

How long did it take for you to feel your LO had settled and what sort of feedback did you get in those v early days to navigate the transition?

To add, I guess the best way to describe nursery feedback thus far is that I'm being fobbed off a bit and just told what I need to hear to send me on my way

My DD started at 13 months (in lockdown), I was beside myself and dreading it but we didn’t have tears apart from on the 3rd day drop off and she settled fine. But even nursery said she was unusually relaxed about it all.
Most of my antenatal group had tears for the first 3 weeks though, that does seem normal at that age when separation anxiety is an issue.

But I had absolute confidence in the nursery staff, they were lovely and very reassuring. I’d give it a week or two but if you still have a niggle then don’t ignore it. It might not be the right setting for you.

It took about 4 weeks for my DS to settle fully and start running in.
We had tears, kicks, everything and it broke my heart but I was consistent, kept the goodbyes quick and left.
I was giving a paper report each time which told me details of food, sleep, nappies what they had been up etc. So I would be expecting you to be told this stuff and not having to ask.
It's worth asking going forward how they report the children's day, do you get a report, on an app etc.
It takes time for them, they'll soon love it!