Nursery Drop Off

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My DD is having a tough time getting used to nursery, she has only been a couple of times (she goes once a week) and she cries her eyes out when I leave her and cries on and off throughout the day according to what nursery have said, her eyes are all puffy when I pick her up from crying, it makes me feel awful! She is very clingy with me at the mo and I think a big part of her getting upset is down to leaving me, I’m wondering whether it may help if her dad drops her off instead, has anyone else tried letting someone else do the drop off? And did it help or did it make things worse?? Thanks

Hi op. How old is Dd? I'm a nursery nurse and it is completely normal for a child to be upset when being dropped off. She's only been a few times and only goes once a week so it's still a big change for her. If she is less clingy with dh it could be worth a try getting him to drop her off. But honestly, it will get better as she settles. It can take weeks or longer as she's only there once a week. Unfortunately it does make you feel awful but it will get better if you persevere

It's a good idea to try getting Dad to drop her off, the behave completely differently for different people.

Only going one day won't be helping though. It's not really enough to establish the nursery routines and will likely make the settling process much longer. A week between sessions is a very long time for babies and toddlers.

She needs to go more than once a week really. It's not long enough for her to get used to it properly.

Yes get dad to drop off.
My ds was like this as a 3 year old. He would leave dad no bother but not me (mum). Its worth a try.

Agree once a week isn't enough for her to settle and remember the environment / people.
Our nursery didn't allow less than 2 sessions a week and suggested they were spread out so no more than 3 days between sessions.

Most nurseries/ pre schools I know say the minimum of 2 days a week. Give it time x

Thanks all, I know it’s probably too little one day a week but my mum has her the other two days I’m at work which obviously saves us quite a bit of money! She will be going more when the free hours kick in, as you say I think we just need to give it time! Think dad will do the drop off next and see if it makes any difference

My little one only went once a week from 15months and settled just fine so one day a week can work. I found that DD never cried when dad dropped her off 🙄 so definitely worth a try!