How to help settle in

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Is there anything I can do to help DD (just turned 2) settle at nursery? She cries at drop-off and it's really upsetting to hand her over, I'm not allowed in with her so hand her over at the door. We've tried each morning this week, she's managed 8.30- 11.30 but I work (wfh) til 16.30 so we really need to get her in for full days ASAP especially as I'm at the factory more and more soI'll be over an hour away and working all day.

She's been with a childminder since she was 11 months but about 6 weeks ago they closed unexpectedly so she's been at home with me and DH waiting until she's old enough for nursery (age 2). She never cried dropping her off at CM, barely looked back and just walked straight in.

DD is crying on and off throughout the sessions, nursery staff are saying "she'll get there just keep bringing her".

This is really stressful and it's taking its toll on my already shitty marriage.

I would suggest ringing the nursery and speaking to the manager and let them know you are really struggling with drop offs and thinking of taking her out( even if you’re not the thought of losing a child will give them a bit of an incentive to help)
I take all the children in at my nursery and I try really hard to be upbeat and positive
It helps if parents are upbeat and positive too
It can be hard to make those relationships with staff when you’re not allowed in but it’s important for the children that you try. Ring them and speak to her keyperson, they really won’t mind
I wouldn’t worry about her staying longer, sometimes it is easier the longer a child is in nursery, I’ve just had a child who did settle initially but a couple of weeks in he started to cry. I suggested to mum to bring him earlier as she was bringing him at 9 am which is a really busy, noisy time and he was just overwhelmed by it all. He’s been coming in at 8 am and it’s quieter and less busy and he’s coming in with no tears
If you are showing any anxiety your child will pick up on it
Hope this helps