Since my 3.5 year old son has been at a particular preschool, I have been semi under supervision (maybe too strong a term) with a lovely health worker. She was lovely and helpful when I was struggling last year in lockdown with him and my daughter and how 19 months younger. For past 12 months things have gone up and down, mainly up and I'm in a far happier place than I was. Manly bc my daughter is less 100% dependent on me for everything (she can walk, and feed herself etc). However in the past month the manager at the outdoor nursery seems to be telling social services that I am really struggling (I am not!!!) and the previously lovely health worker has turned and said that I am too. A lot of this stems from the fact that I also sought help with a group calls Turning Point for help with drinking ( I was occasionally drinking a bottle of wine of an evening- twice or three times a week). Initially they didn't think I needed help as I did not/ don't present to be dependent, which I'm not at all. And TP let me down innumerable times However some jobsworth raised an alarm with social services and now it's a nightmare. Simultaneously a mother with a grudge against me for an entirely different matter, she made some jewellery for me yet didn't follow my commission and won't give my money back and I'm taking her to small claims; reported me to the police for threatening her in the playground!!!! Bearing in mind I only found this out yesterday when a lovely policewoman called me to ask what happened. And I was utterly flabbergasted and frankly absolutely devastated as to what is happen to me. However let's backtrack to Weds afternoon. It wa the first time in two months that I saw her as managing to avoid her - and I asked how she was , hoping she might be more helpful in resolving the jewellery situation. She shouted back at me in a vile manner. I ignored her and went to get my son.
Then on Friday afternoon at 4.30 my husband and I get a message from the nursery saying tha I was banned from dropping off or collecting my son. That if ny husband wasn't able to collect him (obv he can't - he's at work at 3pm!!!) then someone who's have to bring ny son out, across the playground of the neighbouring school and deliver him to me in the car. Poor little boy not understanding why his mummy can't get him like everyone else's mothers do. The nursery issued this decree without any discussion and saying that we'd have to await Monday morning to do so. They know how upset I am about the social service investigation and have only caused more stress and upset to my increasingly fragile mental health, which they also tell me is the reason they contacted ss. Despite also telling me that my son is the kindest, sweetest boy abs most happy and popular one in the group!!! (Doesn't that character come from his parents at the age of three ?!). The policewoman has since agreed that the other mother has falsely reported me and that the nursery has behaved very inappropriately.
Anyway. What do I do??? I am utterly shaken by this yet if I tell anyone they will think I am having a breakdown and unable to care for my kids. Also no one has ever ever made any comment about me as a mother - my daughter's childminder is amazed that this is happening and my son's previous minders never once made a complaint or said anything to me in the two years he was with them before this preschool.
We want to remove him from it bc of their treatment of me, but are terrified ss will think we're hiding something. We are not. I am working mother and work incredibly hard to send my kids to fun nurseries and have a lovely life. They are very happy and healthy. I have lots of lovely friends who've never once made any sort of comment about anything. Yet since we've sent our son to this nursery everything is going wrong.
Sorry this is so long. (I am an author btw!!!).
Thank you for any help.