My J has started nursery 1 month ago and always screams when I leave him!

[BBKing]

It's pretty traumatising- every time I leave him at nursery (which is only once a week) he screams and is teary all day. I don't think it is the nursery as all staff are lovely and really patient (have popped in unexpectedly a few times to make sure!), and he is usually a very sociable baby and goes to anyone. his report card always says he's eaten well and slept, but he doesn't want to be down with the other babies unless someone is with him! Should have mentioned- he is 10 months old.
Anyone had similar experiences? Do I need to just give it time? Any feedback would be good as I hate leaving him at the moment.

BB King

i think it is normal tbh
they all go through a phase of it

DS went through a phase of this around a month ago

at 9/10 months don't they have separation anxiety - think that can have an effect

hard on you tho'

DD was 8 months when we first left her in nursery and she was close on a year before she settled, but she was only going 1 day a week. The staff suggested 2 mornings instead of 1 day, so she was there more often, for a shorter space of time and it worked a treat. By the time she was walking, she was almost running in there every morning.

It WILL get better, I promise!
xxx

My DD2 has been at nursery once a week for six weeks now and this week she hardly cried at all when I left. 2 weeks ago she was in hysterics, throwing herself on the floor, holding onto the doorframe

She always enjoys herself when I'm not there.

How long has he been going? A few friends mentioned six weeks as a 'magic' number after which sparating got easier...

They do definitely go through phases (which pass), my DD started at 5.5 months and was always terribly (almost worryingly ) nonchalant when I left - until she was 15 months old when she went through a phase of crying hysterically which was quite upsetting. However she only did this a few times (maybe 5 or 6) and she's fine again now. The girls at the nursery said that they often start doing it again when they are a bit older as well (about 2.5 I think they said) but it's very normal.

It may be that two half-days would be easier for him (and you) and help him to settle if that's an option? Good luck.

Thanks for all you mails- has definitely made me feel better. Will wait for the "magic" 6 week mark. I think I'll also consider him going for more sessions instead of just one whole day!
Fingers crossed he's ok when I pick him up tonight!

BB

same here

dd was 1year when she started and it took 5 months of scremaing before she was happy to be handed over

she still goes through phases now of being upset in the mornings, especially as she has just changed to the next room

it will pass I'm sure, hang on in there

He will settle but maybe doing two sessions would lessen the trauma for you both,it's like starting anew each week as he's forgotten the week before!