My son who is 22months old started nursery back in July, and just isn’t settling well, he bursts into tears and he has to be peeled off me at the door. It got marginally better for a while, but he was off nursery for a week in October due to illness and since he’s gone back again it has been horrendous. He cries as soon as we get in the car to go and shouts no as soon as he sees the nursery.
I haven’t had any concerns to this point about what is actually going on at nursery, they tell me he is quickly settled when he’s actually in there and he does seem happy when I pick him up, but recently there have been a few red flags. 3 times in the past few weeks (he only goes two days a week) they have changed his nappy when I have arrived to pick him up and before handing him to me, I’m worried this is because he has been left very wet?
Some parents (not me) have asked about how we can be more involved (because of not actually being able to spend time in nursery due to restrictions) and I thought that their response was quite shoddy. They said that they only have one phoneline so couldn’t have it clogged up, that their internet signal isn’t good so couldn’t do zoom/Skype parents evenings and that they didn’t agree with using online platforms to track progress. They have suggested sending photo updates of “life at nursery” by room, but I don’t really see how this helps you understand how your child is getting on specifically?
There was also an incident when I was picking my son up where I saw one of the nursery ladies shout very aggressively in another child’s face. I did complain to the nursery and I couldn’t have asked for a better response, they seemed very upset ans shocked and have extended the lady in question’s probationary period..
So my question is. Am I being over sensitive, or should I start looking at another nursery?
Do children ever settle better at one place over another?