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Should i move nurseries?

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Mummatoh · 21/10/2020 19:32

My 11 month old has started nursery (3rd week) and a couple of things concern me but i don’t know if i’m being silly (he’s my first child).

Firstly we liked the nursery for many reasons, they do a journal of baby’s time there with photos etc, the food looked nutritious and fresh, they have a good rep.

However, they appear to have changed caterers and the food doesn’t seem as good. The hot meals seem ok but before they had proper dinners too and now it’s things like a crumpet with angel delight!!

The journal is a lovely idea bur i have no idea what he gets up to during the day as we aren’t allowed to take the journals home to look at. I’m also worried that he is the youngest there, all the others are walking and i’m worried he won’t make friends as theres no one his age.

He seems happy there though. Am i being silly?

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Findahouse21 · 21/10/2020 19:34

Kindly? Yes I think that your reasons are a little daft g at that age I think it's quite a bug thing to settle in to a nursrry, so I would only move at that age for significant reasons. Can't you just ask what he does each day at pick up time?

OverTheRainbow88 · 21/10/2020 19:39

Just ask to take the book home. I did yesterday and they handed it over? If they won’t; suggest they use an online app so you can see!

Food wise- I think most have a sample menu on their website which they usually don’t follow any way.

Soon your DS will also be waking and playing

My DS has only started forming proper friendships since he was 4.

Pinkflipflop85 · 21/10/2020 20:05

Babies and pre schoolers have no concept of friendship. They just play alongside others and gradually move towards playing with others as they get older.

Are the books being kept at nursery due to covid rules? Some places aren't allowing any books etc to leave the premises.

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Mummatoh · 21/10/2020 20:52

I do ask every day but it’s hard to remember everything to ask, how long did he nap for? Did he drink all his milk? Did he eat all his lunch? What are his poos like? (determines if he gets lactulose before bed), what did he do today?, i feel like i’m being a pest!

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Mummatoh · 21/10/2020 20:54

I did ask and they said they used to allow it but parents never bring it back so they stopped it. My friend has an online app where she gets lots of photos and updates during the day and i think thats probably highlighted it more to me.

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Mummatoh · 21/10/2020 20:57

Thanks, thats good to know about friendships. His first birthday is coming up and i started thinking who will i invite to his 3rd birthday if he has no friends 😂

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Changedmynameagain1 · 21/10/2020 21:02

Honestly I think you are totally overthinking it.
My DD has been at her nursery since 6.5 months, she is 13 months now.
We don’t have an online accessible app, my DD is happy. She squeals with delight when I drop her off and that’s good enough for me.
I couldn’t tell you what she eats daily as honestly I’m not bothered, if she wasn’t eating they would tell me.
They tell me a bit about her day when I get her, weekly photos are uploaded onto their fb page and that shows her week.

I honestly think if he is happy you are totally overthinking it all! If the staff are lovely and nice that is half the battle

Changedmynameagain1 · 21/10/2020 21:05

Also until recently my DD was the youngest, she started so young and others were older.
I’ve never even considered her making friends 🤣🙈 so honestly put it to the back of your head

Hangingtrousers · 21/10/2020 21:13

Ask to take a photo of the journal page for that day on your smart phone.

I think if he's happy at drop off and pick up then you are winning tbh at 11 months. My baby is 12 months and been going to he (fabulous) nursery for a month and only just stopped crying at drop off.

BackforGood · 21/10/2020 21:28

It is natural to worry and fret when it is your first, but I do agree with others, there is nothing there I'd be moving Nurseries over.

It is unusual these days not to use on-line apps for the home school communication, but it isn't insurmountable - If there are particular things (like the amount of milk and if he did a poo) then ask them to write them in a notebook you can take home, separate from his learning journal (where they wouldn't be writing that stuff).
However, at 11 months, he isn't going to be "doing" things that need to be reported on, on a daily basis.
Nor will he have / not have 'friends'. Nor will he in a year's time, when he might be beginning to play with whoever is alongside him at that moment

TigerQuoll · 22/10/2020 03:22

Take a photo of the journal when you pick him up, so you can look later when you want to know the info

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