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help me decide what to do about sensitive wee DD2 please

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nailpolish · 11/10/2007 14:06

she goes to nursery mondays and thursdays

she has only just started (10th week)
previous to this she has been at home with me full time - she is not clingy, but is very coothie

she cries when dh takes her out the door (she goes to nursery at dh's office - they get the bus together)

she sobs all the way on the bus. dh says she is genuinely sad and "just wants mummy"

dh thinks the days she goes are "too far apart" and if she did the 2 days in a row it would be slightly better. we have the option to do mondays and tuesdays.

he also suggests we send her 3 days - monday tues and thurs

i think dh is just trying to think of ways of getting her 'used' to nursery

i ask dd2 things like "do you like nursery?" "is it fun?" she doesnt tell me what she does at nursery but then she is a bit small for that just now.

she doesnt scream and cling to me - it seems she does want to go and that she enjoys it

she is just sad and sobs the whole way

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DoctorFrankenSquonk · 12/10/2007 14:15

if she is getting upset on the bus about wanting mummy - could you promise to do something special with her when she gets home from nursery - just the two of you.

Also, does dh do stuff with her on the bus? does he read a book to her or sing "the wheels on the bus" (sod the other passengers ) or play I spy or anything? She might be just bored and knowing that mummy would make the bus journey more interesting.

It sounds as if she has more issues with the bus ride than actually going to nursery itself.

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 14:16

she is fine after shes been there for a few minutes
the teachers are very cuddly and because dd2 is such a coothie girl, she sits on their knee for ages

you should see her - her eyes well up and her mouth is upturned U

like a cartoon sad face

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Fimbo · 12/10/2007 14:16

God, it's hard this parenting malarky.

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 14:17

dh takes a jotter and crayons, and a book
they play eye spy

its not the bus - its missing me

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 14:18

"eye spy with my wittuw eye somefing beginninningg wiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiith GREEN"

its so sweet

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Marne · 12/10/2007 14:19

Could you make her a little book for on the bus? things she might see on the way that she can tick off in the book (pictures)

I sometimes give dd a letter to post on the way to nursery so she's thinking about posting the letter and not going to nursery and then i make her look out the car window and tell me when she see's the post box.

DoctorFrankenSquonk · 12/10/2007 14:20

oh bugger.

how about you give her something of yours to look after? something that she knows is definitely yours, she will feel closer to you for having it and it may make her feel really grown up for being trusted to look after it...

I spy with my little eye something beginning with G

grass?
green?
granny?

no silly, it's that house

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 14:21

they get off the bus at markies on the high st - dh takes her in to buy a flapjack for her playpiece
the ladies in their make a fuss of her and that cheers her up a bit
i also draw a picture for her and put it in her bag as a 'surprise' and that cheers her too

i think its just going to take time and lots of cuddles

i dont know what to do about the extra day tho

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 14:23

oh thats a nice idea squonk - like a scarf or something
shes always wanting a shot of my scarf

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 14:23

v sorry for my bad spelling and grammar

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DoctorFrankenSquonk · 12/10/2007 14:41

methinks it's now your ex-scarf

things will get better

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 20:17

my lovely pink cashmere scarf.....

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Tamum · 12/10/2007 20:24

I would try the extra day, naily. You could presumably drop back to two if it doesn't help, couldn't you? I think a few half days together would be easiest on her, probably, but I guess it's impossible to fit that in with work. It sounds as though you and dh are doing everything you possibly can, and I know they are nice at that nursery. I hope things improve.

MeltingandScreamingIcarus · 12/10/2007 20:31

awwww poor dd2. Can you pick her up any earlier or does she come home with DH?

My friend had a chart on the wall which showed which days were nursery and today iyswim. She also changed to mon wed fri and that seemed to help settle her wee lad. Three sessions were def better.

Poor wee lamb.

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 20:35

htanks tamum
i agree half days would be better - but you are right it doesnt fit in with work. i am so tempted to try the extra day - for some reason i think it might help. she is so small its taking her ages to get to know the other children.
becuase i dont collect her i hvent met any of the other mothers to arrange meetups or anything

work are being great and letting me decide what i want to do, os i ahve half term next week to think about it

she is just so small and quiet and coothie - shes still my baby

dd1 on the other hand is doing extremely well now

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 20:38

oh a chart seems like a good idea
i do sometimes pick ehr up - its not helping though

fridays are out im afraid becuase i cant do that as a work day as dd1s school closes at midday on a fri so i have to collect her so i cant work that day
iyswim

the best days i think would be mon tues and thurs
do 2 days and have a break then another day
or all 3 at once..? working 3 x 12 hours shifts in a row is crappy though

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 20:39

when i pcik her up she just runs over and doesnt say a word - just grips me tight and sits on my knee

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MeltingandScreamingIcarus · 12/10/2007 20:39

mon tue thurs I think.

Can she take her awful rag blanket thing?

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 20:40

ahve you been to see those hogs yet Icarus?

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MeltingandScreamingIcarus · 12/10/2007 20:40

Are you putting her to bed the night before?

Tamum · 12/10/2007 20:41

That's great about dd1, I'm really pleased I would try the Mon Tues Thurs, I think- I agree that three days on the trot might be better in a way, but she might find it quite tiring too, and that could make it worse rather than better.

MeltingandScreamingIcarus · 12/10/2007 20:41

no, poor neglected hogs. Might go next week as is half term.

Would you like a visit? can do wed thur or fri?

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 20:42

lol @ blanket
she takes teddy - teddy likes nursery. blanket would get lost, apparently. she also has an invisible friend called george who is a monster

whats making it worse too is we now hav ea kitten

cue

"i want to stay at home and play with socks"

or "thockth" as dd2 says

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nailpolish · 12/10/2007 20:45

i put her to bed depending on shifts. dh always reads bedtime story though, always has done (well 99% of time anyway)

i have a dullest of dullest thing ever in the history of dullsville monday to friday 9-5 week long drug prescribing thingy next week. so i cant meet up at all. its rubbish being the week schools is off.
i am free at weekends tho

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MeltingandScreamingIcarus · 12/10/2007 20:47

ah. Will ring.