My DD bit another child

[milliec]

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That's awful - yes, definitely tell the nursery manager - in fact I'd have phoned her to tell her anyway.

All children go through a biting stage - it's run of the mill stuff with children that age and you shouldn't be made to feel at all awful about it.

The nursery staff should have told you quietly (although I think we were only told when our children got bit - and never who had done it!) and they should be doing their best to make sure children don't get the opportunity to bite - although I recognise that's difficult, hence why it sometimes happen.

Please don't feel bad and definitely talk to the nursery manager tomorrow.

the other woman is a total idiot and no right-thinking parent would be on her side

poor you

seems like you've had an encounter with the worst of humanity today

don't worry she'll get hers when her little boy goes through the biting or pushing or pulling or being mean phase

I would go and talk to the nursery manager privately and explain to her how let down you feel by the nursery for their actions

I would also ignore the woman until she has the grace to apologise .. or forever I doubt she will tbh

Bit or bitten??! Anyway, hope you start to feel less horrible about it - it's not your fault or your child's - handled terribly by the nursery.

Your DD is not quite 2 and they are making a huge issue about this.
Firstly she is not doing this maliciously - it's a habit that gets a reaction.
Secondly the nursery worker who said so loudly that she'd bitten another child needs shooting.
Thirdly if I was the nursery manager I'd be telling the other mother that I don't tolerate attacks on other parents or defenceless children and ask her to think about her actions or to remove her child.
So angry on your behalf.

OMG I can't believe that other lady reacted like that. Speaking as someone whose ds gets bitten regularly at nursery I can honestly say that she is hopefully in the minority of this ignorant attitude. My ds is bitten everyday at nursery, however, he is bitten because he is a pusher! We are desperately trying to calm his pushing down too but as I am constantly told, it is probably a phase and tbh he is rarely pushing now. We just stood our ground with him, let him know what he was doing was wrong and worked in conjunction with the nursery in correcting his behaviour.

Please try to ignore the likes of that stupid woman - for all you know, her ds may have hit your ds and he was retaliating. I know it's wrong but she should know that toddlers aren't bloody angels and if they're not biters then they are quite possibly pushers, snatchers, scratchers, wrestlers or all of the above!

Have a word with nursery and try to put her comments to the back of your mind.

OMG most nurseries have an explicit policy not to identify biters to anyone but their own parents you'll see plenty of complaints about it on MN... but it makes sense to me because otherwise some parents of victims will have an over-the-top go (as you experienced), and otherwise it's a very common thing for toddlers to do, it is out of order to publicly identify "culprit" biters.

You should absolutely complain about the way it was told to the other parent.

If the nursery was doing its job they would spot trigger moments when your DD was most likely to bite and would act proactively to prevent the biting; in that way nursery has let both you and the bitten child down.

Oh yes ds1 was a pusher - it's a nightmare isn't it. They all have their wonderful little quirks they're all little sods at this age. Ds2 was the biter - still nibbles my shoulder if I let him...

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Milliec how awful for you. Please do tell the manager as she may well be hoping you would formally complain if she had her suspicions about the source of the breach of confidentiality. If she/he isn't told when staff are out of order she may not be able to do anything about it.

If that were my employee she'd be in the office for a statement following the incident & then back again after speaking to you for a written warning to be put on her record.

I hope little one has recovered OK.

(and YOU of course )

Lord what a nightmare. Glad that the Nursery Manager seems to be taking it seriously

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Damn right tell tales! serious breach of protocol here, what if that other woman had assaulted you? This is what the confidentiality rule is for!

Many many children bites. Other woman needs to get a grip. She'll be sorry when her precious bites someone! most people are reasonable - my first reaction to being to my son had been bitten was "oh so it wasn't him biting? OH THANK GOD!"

at her shouting into your dd's pram! Nutter!

God that's awful! My dd1 was bitten lots of times at nursery and it wasn't nice but I was never told who had bitten her and I know its nursery policy not to say who the biter is! DD2 was the biter - which was worse than dd1 being the bitee! You really should complain and my sympathy to you and your dd - what a horrible experience.

What an awful woman-the other Mum I mean. It could so easily be any of us. I have an occasional biter (at home,not, as yet at nursery) but last week she was bitten by another child in a tussle over a toy. It happens. I signed the accident book, and had to have a wry smile when my indignant DD2 kept pointing at it, rolling her eyes dramatically and saying 'the boy, hurt' in Oscar winning high dudgeon! Glad to see nursery are taking it seriously. The other mother should realise that the world suddenly becomes very small when you have children and it is likely she will bump into you in the future at school, swimming lessons or kids parties and if she carries on like this everyone will be cheering when her little angel inevitably does something naughty.

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