Nearly 2 year old so upset at drop off after returning

[Cornishbelle]

Just wondering if there must be others out there going through this.

We made the choice for our nearly two year old dd to go to nursery 3 days from start of June as we could see she wasn't getting enough attention from us as we are both wfh and trying to help our yr 3 son with his schoolwork.

She was a bit upset the first day as expected, second day a bit better then last day of the first week she was really upset but we put this down to tiredness.

This week she has got more and more upset and it's just horrible to see. Yesterday we rang and were told she had settled down ok had a few moments but overall very happy. We've also seen photos on her online journal of how much fun she's having and they also note how much food she's enjoying-also proved when she comes home wearing it

It's just so upsetting to see and I know it's natural to be upset when parting but we always seem to see others heading in giving smiles and waves to the parent. My son was the same and it makes me wonder is it something we have done or not done?! My work is still unproductive as I spend half my time thinking about how she is

Just a rant really, and an empathetic hand hold to anyone else currently going through the same

DD was like this. Cried at dropoff, for months, inconsolably. Lots of DC do, apparently. It made going to work so much more stressful. The staff didn't know she was verbal (at 2) because she didn't speak for the first 4 months, & it took another 3 months for her to speak to an adult, although they overheard her chatting with other children if she didn't realise an adult could hear her. She got over it, & loved nursery & really missed it when she moved up to school. Which she also loves, BTW - she's massively missing her teachers & friends at the moment.

Thank you @sisyphus it's horrible to hear that you and your dd went through that but good to hear it comes to an end. Rereading my op it might not be as clear as should be, but my dd had already been at this nursery from 12 months old and we went through all the settling. She's been off for just over two months due to lockdown. I was probably naive to think that it would be smooth sailing I expected a few tears but it almost seems worse than when she first started. She is with new keyworker which I guess she will take time to bond with

I don’t have much to offer but we had this with my DS. He went back last week after 3 months off and after the first day of tears at drop off he has suddenly stopped the tears and very happily goes in now. He started the nursery in janurary and up until March was still crying and screaming for me at drop off every time so I know how heartbreaking it is. All of his reports and pictures sent to us proved he was very happy and had settled quickly but it still makes you feel awful. Does your little one spend time with other friends/family without you? Ours doesn’t spend any time away from me or dad so we put it down to separation anxiety. We had DS in a different nursery for 6 weeks last September and it was a complete nightmare. Screamed the minute we pulled into the car park and then all the way into the nursery and I would run out in tears everytime and spend every minute worrying. He never settled here at all. Was always miserable, did not touch a toy or interact with anyone the whole time he was there and we removed him as was not happy with the staff etc overall.
I would suggest if your little girl is happy when she is there and eating well etc then it may just be she needs more time to settle back in? It must be a hard adjustment to have spent weeks in lockdown and then suddenly back to nursery especially if it’s a new key worker.
Sorry this is really long and I don’t feel that I have been overly helpful but I hope things get better for you.

Thanks Charley yes she normally spends one day a week with my husbands parents but since lockdown obviously hasn't. We haven't left her with anyone else before so you're probably right she is just not as used to it as some and it is separation like you said with your Son. Hopefully another few drop offs and things will calm down