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Feel like I have failed my son

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EatCakeBeMerry · 08/06/2020 13:51

My son starts nursery very soon at 9 months. He still breastfeeds to sleep and has never been longer than 2 hours without me. I had plans to leave him with family but due to current situation that has not happened. Has anyone else sent their child to nursery so dependent on you and it turned out ok?

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Cornishmumofone · 08/06/2020 13:59

I breastfed my daughter to sleep until she was 2 (and fed her every 2-3 hours at night until she was 18 months old). We have no relatives nearby so she was never left with anyone else. (I'd go out running for a couple of hours without her once a week - she was at home with her dad then.

She started nursery just before she turned one and never gave me a backwards glance. She's 3.5 now and still loves going to nursery.

MrMagooInTheLoo · 08/06/2020 14:37

Definitely not failing him. Wait until he's a teen and says he hates you.. That's a kick in the guts.

SandieCheeks · 08/06/2020 20:32

You haven't failed him, but think now about how you would like the staff to get him to sleep and comfort him.

Megan2018 · 08/06/2020 20:36

He’ll be fine.
We still feed to sleep and nursery said it makes no difference, they will find their own way.
We will also not have left DD with anyone when she starts this autumn.
It’ll all be ok!

Fandabydosey · 11/06/2020 10:43

Please don't feel like you have failed you son. Guilt is the worst part of being a mum. Try not to worry the situation has been less than perfect. It will be OK xx

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EatCakeBeMerry · 14/06/2020 11:03

Thank you for the words of encouragement. Settling in went well so feeling more confident for his actual start date. It will be a big leap from a couple of hours to a day session but it's helpful to know other babies who are fed to sleep and haven't been socialising are thriving at nursery

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Snoopypants · 15/06/2020 15:46

I see others have already said the same but I was also in exactly the same situation and all was fine. I wish I didn’t worry so much!

avocadotofu · 20/06/2020 11:34

My son was exactly the same and he was absolutely fine at nursery. I was really worried about it before he started but his nursery was really supportive. It took him about a month to settle. He's 20 months old and he still nurses to sleep when we're together. It'll be a lot better than you fear I think.

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