Am I being too awkward?

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bustyboobs · 04/09/2007 22:32

DS has just started at nursery 3 days a week. The nursery is reputed to be excellent and I think it probably is. However, we are having a few teething troubles. We use reusable nappies and he came home today with the wrap on inside out. He's breastfed and I'm expressing for them but he only took 4oz all day which I suspect is because he is used to taking his time and they are used to babies guzzling bottles.

Of course these are problems which will be got over quickly but here's the real issue. We have been doing BLW and asked the nursery if they could continue this. However, I suspect that they are pushed for time and are feeding him themselves. Should I push them on this or is this a step too far?

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dinny · 04/09/2007 22:33

yes, think it is - can you delay your return to work maybe?

Mummywannabe · 05/09/2007 09:42

Think you are being completely reasonable to ask them to follow your own routine, it is an Ofsted requirement. As for the wrap being on inside out, not ideal but perhaps the staff have not used them before? With regards to the bottle feeding, lots of children find this hard at Nursery, does he have bottles at home with you also, if not try to do this for at least one feed a day (so its not so strange). I manage a Nursery and they should absolutely be happy to continue BLW. Why not book an appointment to have an update chat with his keyworker as its difficult to chat on drop of collection and they may appreciate more time to discuss his rouitne etc, that way all your queries can be discussed and you can ensure they understand what you want (its hard when a parent passes a comment on a childs routine in a busy room, and leaves before you have clarified what was meant - not suggesting you have done this but it does happen!)

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bustyboobs · 05/09/2007 09:48

Thanks, Mummywannabe. I think you're right and it's just a communication issue. Will arrange for a meeting and get it all out. Thanks for listening!

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TigerFeet · 05/09/2007 09:49

My dd had problems taking a bottle at nursery, more often than not she would only take 3-4oz all day. Took her about 2 or 3 months to start drinking more. I don't think it's a problem, your ds will get enough from you at home to make up for it.

Perhaps you could spend a couple of hours at nursery with your ds and his key worker, so you are sure that the nursery understands exactly what you want them to do.

thehairybabysmum · 05/09/2007 09:59

I dont think you are being awkward...but i think you may be jsut a bit oversensitive to some stuff as is normal for any mum when baby first goes to nursery.

Re wrap...prob just cos they are not used to using them...no biggie, just show the right way next time you are in.

BLW...All well and good for you to ask for this but also i dont think that in the big schem of things its bad if he is fed some of his food by them...i know at the nursery i use they encourage finger feeding. A bit of both isnt going to do any harm to your ds and obviously you do it your way when you get home so personally i would chill about this too.

re the milk i would be more worried if he consisttently didnt drink much...i would chat to them about this and explain he is a slow feeder, maybe he was also distracted by the bustle of nursery. Hopefully he will settle but i think this is the area that warrants attention from them.

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