Crying for nursery toyd

[janita18]

Hi...I want some serious advise.My son is 3 years old and he has just started nursery this week.He is speech delayed and has quite bad meltdowns over small things. He os very happy going to nursery and playing there with other kids but he is giving my hard time coming back to home.He insists to bring toys from nursery with him which i dont allow him to.He cries so hysterically over this for the last two days. i live in an appartment and its so difficult to calm him down as my neighbors are already fesup of him crying and screaming... am so embarrased why is he doing that..Please give some suggestions ; is it normal for kids to do that or is it only my son behaving this way...I am so upset what should i do...

I always got mine to say goodbye to whatever we were leaving (toys, the park, playgroup etc) and explained that the toys had to stay there so we could play with them next time. Always worked for me and people commented on how good my kids were at 'leaving'

For starters children cry your neighbour will just have to get over themselves. You and your son have as much right to be there as they do. It is still early days and the fact he has a speech delay isn't helping. The inconsolable meltdowns could be a sign that he is struggling to regulate his emotions, I would expect him to have a little bit more control at his age. I would ask the nursery to refer him to speech and language. He may improve quickly at nursery as he is around lots of other children. They won't be able to refer straight away they will have to get to know him first. Is there an activity you can do after nursery eg draw a picture, bake a cake, go to the park. Prepare him before he goes into nursery by saying this is what we will do at the end of nursery, you could even lay ingredients for baking a cake out on the side (or what ever it is he wants to do) and give those boundaries. He will get used to it given time. He just needs to understand that this is nursery and this is home. Remember that you are doing the best job and things will come right it is a learning curve for you both.