14 month old came home from nursery after getting soaked and had an accident

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Hi All

I’m after some advice. My husband picked up my 14 month old from nursery on Friday, where he was was told that my DS had been playing outside, jumping in muddy puddles etc in his snowsuit, boots and gloves and he got that wet that they had to change him. But his snowsuit was soaked wet through along with his boots and gloves, so much so they bagged them up in nappy bags. He also had a fall bumped his head which was grazed and had a small part of his eye where it was blood shot.

I’m not very happy about the whole thing to be honest because if had been that wet outside what were they doing allowing a 14 month old outside and shouldn’t they have checked he had the correct footwear and appropriate outdoor clothing and weren’t they watching him sufficiently to prevent him falling? I mean he must have really hurt his head to have a blood shot eye?!?!?

As this is my first child and so first experience of nursery, I don’t know what to expect. I want to say something to the nursery but don’t know if this is the norm? I just feel outraged at the moment.

I also think water gets in at the cuffs and collar - it would have to be very tight not to. Again, not really a problem for an adult walking in rain, but a baby who may have been rolling around in a puddle tests these things to the limit!

Why don't you ask them what happened?

Did he have fun?

@ClemDanFango - its up to the OP how to parent her own child- I personally get fed up with all the anger that's shown towards new parents who are obviously and quite rightfully a bit more cautious- everythings still brand new, it's a totally new learning experience and not an easy one to just 'relax' into- a bit more understanding would be nice?

Get an absolute grip!
Water can & does get into the cuffs of a snow suit.
Maybe buy a puddle jumper suit instead.
Ffs.

maybe the snowsuit became unzipped while jumping, maybe another child poured water down his neck, maybe he lay down in the puddle and water seeped in. Does it really matter? First child or not getting wet isn’t going to injure your child or make him unwell, they changed him afterwards. It’s a non event.

wincarwoo I would have if I had picked him up but I was at work an hour away and my husband picks him up on his way home. I will ask when I take him in tomorrow.

Taddda- what are you on about. I’m not talking about anyone’s parenting skills. I’m talking about not nit picking over silly pointless stuff, where the benefits outweigh the negatives.

We're expected to provide waterproofs, wellies and a full change of warm clothes for precisely that reason. Kids will throw themselves into puddles, and a snow suit can only do so much to keep them dry. There is nothing wrong with kids getting wet, dirty and falling over, its all normal and good for their development.

@ClemDanFango you clearly have a chip on your shoulder. Maybe you should practice what you preach!

@ClemDanFango - but learning what benefits outweigh the negatives in regards to being a new parent is a skill! It's all new!

Give the OP a break on the 'get a grip' stuff, she's being really reasonable in explaining her side?

My LO likes to sit down and splash in puddles. Occasionally lie down and splash. It’s okay as longs they’re not left in wet cold clothes for ages. Plus I bet the snowsuit is shower proof rather than fully waterproof.

Try a childminder op x

@Taddda thank you for your understanding and yes as a new parent I don’t understand or get what’s going on. And this is the reason I’ve asked for peoples advice and whether it’s the norm because if it is I can’t be outraged and I need to have a rethink. So you’re right 100% in what you’re saying. Some people just have a chip on their shoulder lol

This is just how it goes when your kid goes to nursery. The are grouped in with others and usually no one notices (or cares) if little Timmy has wet feet. Every time I walk past the nursery on our street the workers are chatting or staring at their phones and couldn't care less about the kids. It's so sad. Just do the best you can and always send him in appropriate clothing for the weather with back ups. Definitely have 2 pairs of waterproof clothes shoes and mitts for the winter so they have a back up.

I’ve seen it a million times Taddda, no one is good enough to take care of the PFB and so the parent wants to find fault and pick at staff to make a point. It’s demoralising for practitioners who are trying their best to give the child lovely experiences and quality learning opportunities.
It’s common sense that being wet doesn’t hurt children, it’s also common sense that children will get bumps and scrapes, how would any of us learn to be careful if we never experienced that?
I don’t think these are things that a new parent needs to newly realise because common sense should have taught them already.

Some people just have a chip on their shoulder lol
Oh ouchie! My poor little feelings! 😂

I was reading your post nodding along ' yes... yes that's fine... okay I understand that...' waiting for the issue to be mentioned. I was quite surprised to reach the part that told us the issue was the child playing outside in appropriate clothing!

Children should be outside! You probably could invest in some better rain wear though.

The snowsuit is waterproof so how did his clothes underneath get wet too?

I’d hazard a guess that the snowsuit is showerproof, not waterproof.

I don’t know what the problem is. Did he have a good time? Did he come to any harm from getting wet?

Every time I walk past the nursery on our street the workers are chatting or staring at their phones and couldn't care less about the kids.

Every time they are out with the children from the nursery next to my work, the staff are chatting to, singing with, holding hands with the children.

@ClemDanFango You might've seen everything 'a million times' , but the OP hasn't....instead of berating her for it, why not try and offer some helpful advice, perhaps out of your 'million' experiences you might just find something relevant and a little less bullish to say

The snowsuit is waterproof so how did his clothes underneath get wet too?!?

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What do you think they actually did to him?

I honestly see the baggie as a good thing - goes with rosy cheeks and tousled hair

Sorry OP but clearly the snowsuit isn’t 100% waterproof. Especially when they sit in the puddles or fall over. I understand this is your first child but at nursery they will get dirty and wet. Don’t bother sending your child into nursery in their best clothes. Supply wellies. Be prepared with accidents. My baby boy had sand thrown in his eyes. It was an accident but scary. They will fall over and bang everything. But they will have fun.

Taddda- I’m firmly on the side of nurseries when it comes to things like this because they’re really trying to do some good for the children and come up against this sort of low level nonsense from
parents so often, as I said before it’s demoralising and distracting, how is that good for the children? Im knackered so I’m going to take my ‘bullish’ self and my ‘shoulder chip’ off to bed. G’night all.