Stop sending them in!

[JustLikeJasper]

My DS has been in nursery FT for 2 months he has had a cold pretty much since he started and today has been sent home for the 3rd time since he started with a high temperature.

Every morning queuing up to drop off i see kids clearly not well enough to be attending yet parents waving off their poorly kid knowing they are spreading germs!

Why can't parents be responsible and thoughtful of other kids/families when their child is unwell? Yes its a pain being off work and no we don't get paid but FFS stop sending your sick kids in!
Please and thank you 🤪

The thing is, of course some parents do send them in when they shouldn’t, but you can’t presume everyone to be inconsiderate or have a blanket ban on all ill children. You wouldn’t do that in a school or workplace, otherwise no one would ever be there. It’s good to build up some immunity anyway. And your child is just as likely to pick up illnesses from soft play, toddler groups, play dates, libraries and supermarkets anyway, and presumably you go to all those places?

My son was in nursery last week with conjuntivitis. He was well in himself apart from that . He’s also been in nursery with hfm. I’ve asked the nursery before taking him in what does their policy say and If they take him then he’s going.
I’d rather keep my days off work for those days he’s got chicken pox / fever etc than just because he’s got something that could be spread but that nursery would still take him. If I had to take time off every time he’s Ill then I’d better give up my job.

@DinoSn0re not in this case

It's the age for it

It does get better op. Dd picked up everything going last year, I took so much time off work. But she hasn’t caught anything yet, touch wood!

The nursery have always said for me to send mine in unless they need medicine.

If you’re in a new job your child’s dad should be helping out as well as. It’s not just on you to collect your child and deal with sick days. It’s unavoidable sometimes. Mine have been coughing/snotty pretty much since October. I can’t take 2 months off work

Note that I said the majority, not all, OP.

I can see that you don’t like anyone disagreeing with you, and you want us all to rant along with you about this, but you’re just not being realistic. Children are renowned for being yucky, germy little monsters. It’s normal.

@JustLikeJasper
thank you for being considerate to other families by staying away

I'm a paramedic and I'm going to one or two babies/toddlers a shift at the moment with breathing difficulties. Some we pass back to their own GPs others we rush through on blue lights to the resus room. I don't want to be responsible for knowingly spreading germs to vulnerable young babies.

@DinoSn0re not at all, everyone can have their opinion we don't all have to agree but I'm not going to not say anything when people think Ive sent him in ill when I haven't or given calpol and then sent him in 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would have about 4 months off work between October and February if dd didn't go to nursery with a snotty nose.

Thing is, you're worried about losing your job and not being able to pay tour mortgage, but effectively saying that it's fine for other parents to be in the same boat by keeping their children at home if they have a snotty nose so yours doesn't get ill. IME, there is a period of time when they all start nursery or school (if they haven't been to nursery) where kids get every cold going. You can't keep them off for months on end when they have a cold and no temperature. The nursery policy where my dd goes is if no temp and they are fine other than a snotty nose is they are fine to be there. D&V or temp is a no no.

Kids get germs from everywhere, unless you keep them in a little bubble and never leave the house, they'll get ill.

So, OP, everyone else should quarantine their not very poorly children, take unnecessary days off, so you don't have to?
Kids are grimy. D&V, really bad cold, flu, yes. Rest, normal stuff you get from work school, life...

Yes the NHS says children with conjunctivitis can attend school and nursery, I looked it up
tonight as I spotted DS1's eye as soon as I picked him up from nursery (DS2 also seems to have it). DS1 is in the school pre-school, mornings only, so I will be sending him in tomorrow. I bet that's where he picked it up from!

He was constantly ill when he started private day nursery at 10 months and it was absolutely horrific for several months, conjunctivitis, hand foot and mouth etc. He has a brilliant immune system now, although this term starting the school pre-school has been tough, he's had 2 colds and now this conjunctivitis. It's a class of 40 so I guess more germs to spread around.

I draw the line at D&V though, that's totally irresponsible and inconsiderate. 48 hour rule.

I didn’t say you had. But you’re making judgements about other children that you shouldn’t. For example, a child at DD’s nursery has an eye condition which means her eyes are constantly leaking yellow fluid, it’s some sort of blockage, so she looks like she has conjunctivitis. But she doesn’t. So she’s fine to be there. But you’d take one look at her and be annoyed that her parents had sent her in like that.

Just trust the nursery staff to make the call about who is well enough to be there and who isn’t. They soon send them home when they’re unwell, as you’re clearly finding out.

Exactly what PP said. Come back in 6 months when you're on your last warning with work and your DD has a bit of a cough and snotty nose.... I absolutely guarantee you that you will send her in.

If you’ve been called in to pick him up 3 times and he’s only been there a few months then you’re the one sending your child in when they should be at home. It sucks, most children when they start nursery will catch a few colds and bugs (we’ve been pretty lucky, touch wood, only missed 2 days in 18 months with DD) but you can’t blame other parents for following the nurseries policies which you have all signed up to.

You can send a child to school with conjunctivitis.
My DD gets conjunctivitis EVERY TIME she gets a cold. If I kept her off in the winter she would never be at school.

High temperature or any sickness etc I always keep them off.

Your child could get a cold from touching something like say a trolley in the supermarket and then putting their fingers in their mouths. Don't always get things from nursery's but unfortunately it is the season for lots of bugs

Why are YOU lecturing others sending in their kids when yours has been sent home3 times for being unwell?

Should you not practice what you are preaching?

Not all of us have another option. I wouldn’t send DD in with D&V or a fever but colds / hand foot and mouth / conjunctivitis her nursery say she can attend. I have a career and no family support. If you don’t like it why don’t you pull your kid out of nursery every time something like that is going around the nursery? 🙄 Didn’t think so!

If your child has been sent home three times in two months it sounds like he's the one who should have been kept home. Presumably if these other kids were very obviously really sick they'd be turned away at the door or sent home pretty quickly. I know it's annoying but I think it's just an expected part of life when you have a child. My 5 year old has had a cold for about a solid month now. She was off school for about two days with it when she was very unwell (high temperature and vomiting) but otherwise has been in school the whole time. She had conjunctivitis a year or two ago and we followed the advice of the pharmacy and the school policy which was that she could attend school - seeing as this is the policy then surely if your child caught conjunctivitis he could also attend school.

Why would i be posting this if i had knowingly sent him in ill 🤨

Also some of you must have missed my second comment saying I don't mean keeping them off for colds snotty noses etc

But viral conjunctivitis isn’t much different to a child having a snotty nose because of a cold, is it? Yet you’ve got a bee in your bonnet about that.

Kids' hacking coughs can last weeks though, when they're more than well enough to be out and about but still sound like dying seals.

Why is conjunctivitis different to a snotty nose?

What type of illness are you seeing visibly in kids when you drop off as mentioned above?

Ex Nursery Manager here.

Happens all the time but as Managers we would quickly suss the parents who always took their child in unwell. The child was often dosed up with Calpol or the parents would drop the child off and run. Literally.

It isn't fair on other children, it really isn't. Not to mention staff.

It's absolutely selfish and so infuriating when parents repeatedly bring in Unwell children

I totally appreciate that people have to work but if your child is unwell, then it's yours, not our, responsibility to care for them. Either you look after them or make emergency care arrangements.
It's not the job of a nursery to care for your unwell child. Sorry but it isn't.

Sorry to also say op but you sound as though you are " one of those parents" as you've been invited to collect your unwell child three times.