'Early' potty training and nursery

[MeadowHay]

DD is 16m and hates (understatement of the century, it's really stressful for both of us!) having her nappy changed. She has recently started going into a corner to poo too.

I was never wedded to potty training early but I think if we can do it it will make all our lives so much less stressful. I don't think I would try before January as I can't take any time off work before the Xmas period and selfishly I don't want us stuck at home for that time unable to take her anywhere etc. I am currently reading the Oh Crap! book. DD is in nursery 3 days a week and will move rooms in February. Her current room don't have a toilet and when DH asked them very briefly about it awhile ago they recommended we wait until she has moved into the next room. I am thinking we would need to wait for her to settle so we would be looking at March which is still early for toilet training but feels like miles away now! The book is American but mentions nurseries requiring children to wear nappies while potty training, being against not wearing underwear etc. I think her method sounds logical. I could definitely have her off nursery for at least one week but more than that would be difficult and selfishly I do begrudge the huge sum of money wasted keeping her out longer when we are on such a low income.

Just looking for stories from nursery practitioners about how they feel about early potty training and what they usually do about nappies whilst training. And anyone on here if they have had their child toilet trained young whilst they went to nursery?

[PrincessScarlett]

I think the problem you are going to have is with the nursery. You can take a week off work to train your child but if the nursery don't have the ability to support you in potty training it is possible that your child may revert/have multiple accidents.

[MeadowHay]

Hi! So to update - we decided we would give training for poo a go soon and leave training for wee until she's in the next room at nursery. Especially because I'm not even sure if she knows when she is doing a wee.

We bought a potty that is like the Ikea but a cheaper version because of the removable insert and we thought it would be easier for her having a more supportive chair-type potty with her being so small. Didn't leave it laying around as per Oh Crap instructions haha. Caught her this morning doing a poo, immediately stuck her on the potty - and we got instant tears and only a very small poo. She was interested in looking at it and she was very enthusiastic about putting it in the loo, she flushed the toilet etc. 5 mins later she ran off into a corner to finish her poo - I thought I would give one more go and got the potty but she got frightened again so obviously dropped it and have put it away.

I was intending to stick it out the way til in the new year and give it another go then, however my therapist (specialises in supporting families with infants) suggested leaving it out for her to get used to and play with toys on it etc. DH thinks this may be a good idea as well as our DD is slow-to-adapt, finds transitions/new situations scary etc. I know in Oh Crap she recommends not doing this apart from in cases where there is legit fear, and we are one of those cases at the moment but in another month we may not be, and I don't want to confuse her.

What do you lot think?

I will reiterate that I couldn't give two shits about how old she is toilet trained, for people who haven't RTFT. We weren't intending to toilet train til probs around 3 initially! It is purely because she finds nappy changing so distressing and I know she would be soo much happier if she could just go off in a corner, do her business have a quick wipe and be off again.