Will he ever learn to sleep at nursery?

[birdybirdbird]

My 12 month old has been in nursery since mid august, doing 3 consecutive days. He’s settled brilliantly, no crying at drop off, eats well and is really progressing. However his sleep is a bit of a disaster. They’re trying to follow our routines but he’s just not having it! Usually has about 2.5 hours spread across 2 naps at home but they’re really having to work to get him to have just one 30 minute nap! Touch wood, it’s not having a huge impact on his night time sleep but I just worry that he’s now not getting enough sleep developmentally.
Does anyone have any positive stories of this settling down or is this likely to be his permanent pattern?

He will be fine and get used to it, it's only 3 days per week it won't damage him.

Why not let the nursery set rhe toutine so he sleeps at the same time as all the other kids?

When my dd started at 9 months, i told them to do whatever they needed to get her to sleep there, and i would change my routine at home to match theirs. Took about 3 months

My DD started nursery at the beginning of September (11 months) and has only last week learnt how to sleep more than 20 minutes whilst she is there. Once she was more settled at drop off and didn’t have a snotty nose, it luckily just clicked into place. Very glad about it as the only place they could get her to sleep was a bouncer chair or in their arms but they tried her on a yoga-type mat one day and she did 1.5 hour and then an afternoon nap too which is much more like what she does at home!

Our nursery didn’t seem bothered about her lack of sleep but said they would continue working with her to try get her more than half an hour.l (hopefully last week wasn’t a fluke!). Definitely settled down for us so there is hope for you DS too

Thanks everyone. Fingers crossed he’ll eventually either figure it out or will adapt to less sleep and not be such a grump when I pick him up!

My DD was 9m when she started and it took about 3 months for her to get into their nap routine which was one nap after lunch for 1-2hrs. She usually sleeps only about an hour or hour and a half. This is less than she sleeps when she is with me/her DF (and especially so at the ages of 9-12m) but she manages. She is also only in nursery 3 days a week and has always been a not-great napper, very sensitive to sudden noises and light too. She's 16m now and starting to be able to cope better with less sleep occasionally. E.g. a few months ago if she got very tired she would just be very grumpy and whinge and cry and scream if it got too bad. Now she is tired after nursery but generally pleasant enough still and goes to bed happily.