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Nursery Help for unsettled 13 month old

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CroydonGirl1 · 29/05/2019 16:35

My little boy is 13months old and has been going to nursery for 2 months now. He goes 3 full days (8am - 4pm)

He cries when I drop him off, and while he's had a few good days there, he's probably had more "off" days where he doesn't settle, is tearful often, clings to his comfort toy, wants to just sit on his key worker's lap and not participate in the activities, has unsettled naps, doesn't eat much....

We've tried bringing nursery toys home to play with, talking positively about nursery, showing photos of his key worker, he laughs and smiles at home at all of those things, but it's a different story when he's there.

I asked the staff there if nursery just isn't for him - but they said he does have good days and to give it a bit longer. I just don't know how long to keep going. I don't want to torture him, and I hate being at work feeling like he might be unhappy. Not working isn't an option, and I worry that if I take him out of nursery for childminder, then he'll have the same problem....

Anyone who can offer some thoughts/suggestions/insights, I'd be really grateful.

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sleepismysuperpower1 · 29/05/2019 16:53

I'm not really sure what to suggest OP (mine settled fairly quickly), but in regards to the childminder, he seems to have taken well to his key worker so maybe the smaller environment might benefit him?

jannier · 30/05/2019 12:52

It dosent hurt to visit some and see he might feel more comfortable with a quieter environment or someone who is consistently around not in and out of rooms doing other tasks. If you get a positive feeling you could see about a second visit and see if they are happy.

CroydonGirl1 · 30/05/2019 13:12

Thank you both very much for your replies. I think I definitely need to speak to them again, because they've added photos to the app today and he just looks very sad and disengaged, and I can't bear it. He's a happy, smiley child at home.

He is in his Wonder Weeks Leap 9 at the moment, which doesn't help matters, but it's breaking my heart to think that he could be so unhappy.

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insancerre · 01/06/2019 13:53

Just give it time
It takes some children longer than others
Is it worth unsettling him by moving when it may get easier for him very soon?

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