Did anyone else feel ridiculously anxious about their baby starting nursery?

[MeadowHay]

DD is 8 months old and it's her first full day today. Her settling-in sessions went ok, she did cry for a bit the second time once she'd been left for about half an hour but I think that was down to tiredness, she cries a lot at home anyway. She didn't notice me leave when I dropped her off this morning and seemed ok if a bit wary of the early years teacher who I have her to. I cried when I was leaving (not in view of her obviously), I felt like such a wally, the reception staff and the early years teacher were both really nice to me about it. I called the nursery around 12.30 to check up on her as they said I could call whenever I wanted, they said she was doing fine, had eaten breakfast fine but didn't seem interested in her bottle that she normally has around 12 but that babies often don't drink their milk when they first start nursery. And she had a 30 min nap late morning, which is normal for her, she doesn't sleep much.

I know she is in good hands and I should be enjoying the peace, I'm going to get my hair done in a bit, and probably collect her a bit early, but I have this horrible feeling of dread and anxiety about it still. I do have GAD. Is this normal or is it just cos I have GAD I feel so bad about it? I just keep imagining her being left to cry a lot as she does cry A LOT and can get really hysterical very quickly and obviously there's one nursery nurse to 3 kids so it's not like they can spend all their time walking her around or whatever I need to do at home sometimes. When will I feel better about it and when will she settle in and start drinking her milk again, or will she just lose interest in entirely?

It happens sometimes meadow
Even children who have been in nursery months and are usually very settled can have an emotional day. Its just one of those things. must be heart wrenching for you though.

hope the next day goes better, My DD was quite emotional for the first month or so, a friends daughter cries every drop off to at 1 year in, but shes a happy little person otherwise just finds saying goodbye hard. You mention this frequent crying a couple of times, is it something you're concerned about? my dd being a big crier turned out to be an allergy.

She's next in on Monday. At home with me til then.

Yeah, she's a crier, always has been. Been to the GP/HV umpteen times, nobody can find anything wrong with her, has been tried on Gaviscon and ranitidine, neither did anything, she doesn't really have symptoms of allergy or reflux or anything though apart from the constant crying, and struggling sometimes with wind, and sometimes struggling to pass her bowel movements. The crying is getting less/less intense etc the older she gets so I'm thinking she will probably just grow out of it but it is really hard. It was awful the first few months she just screamed all the time, I hated most of those first few months. Now it's not so bad, however the downside is that I don't really know anyone else who still struggles with large periods of unexplained crying at this age (9 months almost) whereas I know it's not uncommon for newborns, so feel a bit isolated in that sense. She has been referred for a paediatric check-up by the GP but the waiting list is huge, her appt isn't until she's about to turn 1 (and the referral was done a few months ago). GP and HV both said there's nothing they can do to speed up the referral.

That sounds so tough, glad its becoming less intense. It sounds like you've checked it all out as much as possible. Hope you have a lovely few days together :)